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writes:This has been troubling me for a long time but this is the first time I've ever attempted to address it. I'm very confused about who I am. Most people I know seem to think that I am gay (including my gay and heterosexual friends), but I have always thought the contrary. A lot of my confusion stems from when I was younger, I never fantasized about being the knight that saved the damsel, it was always me who was getting rescued. I seem to notice men who are attractive more than I notice women. What I mean by this is I very quickly find flaws in women so I immediately discount them. Also when I was a teenager I use to experiment by putting things in and out of my anus. This is not something I still partake in, but is something that confuses me still to this day. I am a virgin and have very limited experience. I just want to have someone's opinion outside of my own about this, I don't really have anyone close enough to me that I would trust with something like this. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): Yeah I think you might be gay. But that's nothing to distress about and its none of your friends business anyways. Its not like you go around talking about their straightness like its a bad thing. So next time they make a comment about it stand up for yourself and tell them to mind their own business. The day you feel like talking about it you'll talk about it. In the meantime you are not ready and nobody should be making you feel insecure and uptight.
But I understand that in today's society that is a tough thing to come out with and come to terms with. There is alot of intolerance towards being gay and it is a very hard thing to have to admit even to yourself.
But you are not alone and what I think you should do is start to make friends with gay guys and talk to them. By having people around you who can relate to you, will make you feel more comfortable with yourself. Cause as long as you feel alienated you might keep trying to repress a part of you that needs to be discovered. But when you meet people who share your exact same feelings and experiences will give you confidence so you can talk openly about who you are and that will help you find yourself.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 I cant help but wondering if you dont already know the answer to this but dont want it to be what it is, in other words you dont want to be gay because you fear social exclusion.
I think you should do Mandy's test but i think you already know the answer, your friends will be there for you and accept you for whoever you are and whatever your sexual preference is. I think you need to be honest with yourself and start accepting yourself. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): Hi Hunny
The test!!!!!First do you care about your sexuality is it something that is really worrying you or you just need to find out? Get a piccy of a cute guy and one of a cute girl take a good look and then tell yourself honestly who you are attracted to..When you go out with friend who are you most drawn to the women or the men? Do you find it easier to have a good old chit chat with a woman about anything than sit down with a guy and talk about the footie and baseball? Who you are hunny is you thats not a problem..Its just realising your sexual preference and thats not an issue if you are happy being that person...Get back to me hun ok TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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