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writes:im in a bit of a mess and would love some advice,i went to a work party on friday night and a guy i work with who ive always liked but had a feeling he didnt like me (name calling teasing ect) went aswell we started flirting with each other and i asked why are you doing this you dont like me and then he kissed me...anyway it went from there we went to get a cab and then he decided to tell me he had a gf so i just walked away..i got half way down the street looked back and he was just sitting on the street something told me to go back for him so i did he saw me and went what are you doing so i kissed him and said i didnt care anyway we ended up in bed together but just as we were about to have sex i felt really bad and told him to stop..he said fine its ok..so i ordered a cab home and he started to beg me to stay the night but i left and went home. i far as i know no one in work knows we ended up in bed together but they did see us kiss at the party now some people in work arent taking to me i dont know what to do, as they thought i knew he was with someone.also yesterday an ex who i really miss sent me an email :hi ive seen you a few times now in town and i havent had the balls to say it im sorry about everything before i dont know what i was doing, i did really like you i just wasnt ready for a girlfriend, i should of told you instead of not seeing you again, hope you understand and would like to see you sometime just catch up or something...Xi have since spoken to this guy and he asked if he could have me back or if i wanted to take things slow...i said i didnt know what i wanted if at all anythingthing is i really like the guy from work he says he doesnt love his g/f and that he doesnt regret being with me, the thought of him with her makes me feel ill i think ive fallen for him
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 I'm one of those "high moral" types. As far as I see it, anyone in a committed relationship -- going well or going sour -- is a hands-off deal. It also implies to me that old adage "Having your cake and eating it too". If you would prefer to date the guy from work, go ahead... just tell him to end the other relationship first if he wants to be more than friends. Likewise, don't start something new with the ex-BF if you are pining for the gentlemen from work. It is a two way street and (I believe) that both of you have to express a level of commitment to trying to be together.
That's my opinion...
Best wishes and good luck!
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reader, I'mheretohelpyou +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Oh god, wow, well, seems that you have to tell him to break up with his gf if he doesn't love her and then come whatever, goes.
PEACE!!!
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