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*ie303
writes:Me and my fiance have been together for 3 1/2 years but recently he has told me he thinks to make this relationship last we needed time apart. He told me because I wasn't in school and i have had a hard time finding a job that it might make me focus better if he wasn't around. He also needed to get his life together. So we spent a week away from each other, we didn't even call one another (part of the agreement). He has been very cold with me and told me that he doesn't know when we can get back together... he said it could be months. When he recently went away on vacation i needed some things from our apartment (that he also told me not to be there) i told him i was just grabbing some of my things. when i went on his computer to get some of my files i seen a picture of him with another lady, he was shirtless and she was on top of him. I don't recognize the girl and i don't know ether to think its "just a friend" or this is the reason he didn't want me in the apartment.when i call him he never picks up so I'll have to call him 5-10 times in a day (morning to night) to finally get tough to him. i don't want to seem... desperate or to look like a stalker, but thats how I'm starting to feel. he will tell me one night that he will call me but "forget" but its not like him to forget any thing.he tells me it is hurting him as much as it is hurting me. but after living with someone for 2 years then being ripped apart from that person its like hes dead and gone forever, even though its been about 2 months that i have been out of the apartment.he has always treated me wonderful, im not a needy person but he has done every thing he could for me. always called to tell me he love(d) me, but this quick change was unexpected.so i guess my question is, what does he want from me?where is this going and should i wait for him?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 April 2008):
 Sorry you have to go through this but believe me it's best not to contact him. The last thing you need to lose at this point is your dignity. Hold your head high, bite your lip, and move on. You'll feel much better about yourself.
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reader, pie303 +, writes (25 April 2008):
pie303 is verified as being by the original poster of the question hmm maybe your right, but i still can't seem to stay off him. for 3+ years we were together all the time then one day we weren't. like i said before its like loosing someone because they died. its almost like you keep calling the deceased voice mail just to hear their voice again.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 April 2008):
Good thing this all has happened before you got married. Sounds like he is interested in another woman. I would leave him alone and go about your business. Go ahead and date others if you feel like it. Stay busy. If you guys hook up again make sure he's the one seeking you out. But stop calling him or trying to contact him.
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