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writes: Bit of a bizzare question but where is the best place to find men? Im 31 years of age and havent had a proper relationship in over 4 years and im starting to get lonely and worry if I will ever settle down. Dont get me wrong I do meet men but for some reason all they want to be is friends, and me being weak and desperate to feel loved I fall for them and get hurt when they dont feel the same back. Im starting to wonder whats wrong with me. I have considered internet dating but the idea scares me as i had a bad experience years ago. What am I doing wrong, I dont go out looking for a potential partner because I know by doing that it wont happen but why men feel intimidated by me I will never know. Reply to this Question
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reader, camille  +, writes (28 September 2006):
 How do you know they only want to be friends? Are you sure that isn't what you're projecting to them? Maybe treat yourself to a new outfit, hairdo, makeover, spa day or just something nice for yourself. Look in the mirror at the start and end of everyday, tell yourself you're great and maybe people will see that confidence and see you differently. You may be unaware that you're sending out negative vibes. Because you're thinking you're not meeting anyone and there may be something wrong with you, that's what people may be picking up on and that's not attractive. Start with your own self esteem and then people will flock to you. Other than that, do you have any hobbies? If not, maybe try joining a club, theatre group, class, gym etc and there you'll meet like minded people. There's nothing wrong with internet dating but I think face to face meetings are much better and force you to be brave rather than hide behind a screen, that doesn't help your self confidence. Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (28 September 2006):
 Do some volunteer work, join a hobby related club (ski club, tennis club), go to events that interest you, just get out there and make yourself visible. You won't find the right guy for you if you stay home sitting on the couch. Get busy!
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reader, Toria +, writes (28 September 2006):
 I've always believed that things happen for a reason and people come into your life when the time is right, you have to go through some bad ones and some that don't feel the same as you before you find that 'one' that can return every feeling you hold for them.
Hang in there :o)
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