A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now and he says that once he goes off to college (in about nine months), he wants an open relationship. I am definitely not for that but he told me that he wants to make sure I am the one for him or not. He wants to meet other girls and that thought makes me feel so shitty. Like I am not good enough or that I will not be good enough in the future. I know he loves me and I love him, too, but I do not know what I am going to do without him. By the way, I am already in college and have no plans whatsoever to be with anyone else. We have had talks about this many times and I just do not see him changing his mind about this (open relationship thing). I have decided to take a step back from my own dreams of getting a Master's degree (not sure in what, yet, though) because that is the only way I see us being together. Is this stupid?I am also in a current financial crisis with him. I have $164 in my account; I gave my boyfriend a $235 check a couple months ago for various reasons; and I have a cell phone I need to cancel because I can not afford it anymore and the cancellation is going to cost $150. I can not break up with him because I know he will cash the check and my credit will be shot to hell before I turn nineteen. I guess you could say I am in a bit of a pickle.I need a lot of advice here about this whole damn thing. What should I do and how should I do it? I am way beyond stressed at this point and I do not want to feel this way anymore. Please help... Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, hopelessly_lost +, writes (16 November 2008):
 im 18,and im engaged and my fiencee and i bought our wedding rings. after that i got cold feet and your boyfriend has a point. recently my ex came back into my life and my i told my fiencee i need time to make sure he was the right one for me, which means im going to go see my ex. all your boyfriend needs is a little time to make sure your the right girl. with all of us being so young we all get a little nervous about how were going to spend our future,because you have been with him so long you should trust him to make the right decisions. you can express to him that you are very nervous and that you love him deeply but your willing to let him explore outside the box in order to make the relationship work. as for money, you shouldnt do that unless you know its going to be very serious. my fiencee is 19, he makes good money but he also pays for my phone, his phone, our smoking habits, the appt, the cars, and if him and i ever split up he would also be screwed. but we know that we are getting married so we dont have to worry about that. if your going to give a guy money make sure you trust him sweetie.
|
