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writes:Wondering if this is a subtle hint that a guy may have feelings for me. We were with family and friends, and upon leaving this guy hugged me, I hugged him but very lightly...as I pulled away he moved his hand down to my one waist side and held his hand there for a couple seconds. I looked nice that day, was wearing a cute outfit, don't know if that makes a difference. Maybe it meant more to me, but I felt like he lingered with his hand on my waist...he's NEVER done that before, he's touched me in other subtle ways before, not very often though. Makes a lot of eye contact with me and seems to be interested in what I have to say a lot...So basically I'm asking if this sounds like it could have meant anything from him, like a sign? There's a reasons we can't be together right now, so he can't really come right out and say it to me...I always feel this chemistry with him, but he is also a flirty guys sometimes...but I haven't seen him around to many other women to be honest...The waist thing REALLY surprised me though, felt like we were almost a couple the way he did it...does it mean anything at all? He's not normally a touchy feely person, not that I've seen...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): OP, if you can't be together; that only means he belongs to someone else, or you do. If you're not getting direct signals that is because he's not supposed to. You're straining to find signs of encouragement.
Move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to know, cause I can't help how I feel. I try not to care, but it's my feelings...I feel like it would bring closure to the whole thing...I guess I'll learn to live with my life this way...I'll go on your guys advise and assume it's not reciprocated...
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (23 July 2014):
 Are one or both of you are already married? How old is this man?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 July 2014):
 since you "can't be together" then how he feels or why he does what he does is really moot.
doesn't matter how he feels.
doesn't matter why he does what he does
the fact that you care and wonder says to me that while you say "we can't be together" there is some home that this will change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers so far...I don't want to get into the details but there are reason we can't be together right now, so that is why I can only go off hints...there are a lot of other subtle things that have happened over time, things like running hot and cold, ignoring me purposely infront of others for no reason, then being nice the next time...always standing close to me in my personal space, being more awkward and quiet around me...I haven't given him any signs that I'm interested, so I'm not causing anything...sometimes I think it comes form this chemistry that I feel sometimes, maybe he feels the same way too.
It's an ongoing thing I wish that would just stop...I wish I could just ask and put an end to it, but I can't for various reasons...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 July 2014):
I agree that you are trying to find symbolism in something anything to assure yourself that your feelings towards him are being reciprocated.
It probably means nothing more than he's comfortable around a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2014): I hate to be a killjoy, but I always discourage people from reading too much into mixed-signals.
That comes down to practicing "mind-reading."
Touching your waist can mean anything you want it to mean. It doesn't necessarily imply anything accept he may be feeling you up. I'm gay man, and I am a very tactile person. I stare into a woman's eyes when we talk. I often hold the hand of a lovely lady after shaking hands upon introduction. I was taught this is gentlemanly, and it comes very natural to me. I always let a hug linger when meeting a lady at a party or festive gathering; because it is appropriate to be warm and friendly in a family-atmospher. I have no romantic intentions whatsoever. I'm just a warm and friendly guy.
If a person is attracted to you, they should come right-out and let you know. Throwing subtle hints are okay; but why would an adult play so many cowardly games, and not just let you know that he likes you? He's not a 12 year-old boy; he's a grown man. He could have asked for the digits, or offered you his number. He could have asked you about your favorite restaurant, or brought up a topic that suggests his interest spending time with you and getting to know you better.
Don't go on hints! Ignore ambiguous gestures and meaningless touchy-feely tactics; until he gets the balls to man-up, and show you if he likes you. Say, by inviting you out; or taking your hand and suggesting you take a walk together. Pulling you to a quiet corner and offering you his undivided attention.
Shyness is fine, and it's sometimes very appealing in people. However; it's quite irritating when you want to know whether they are romantically-attracted.
A hug goodbye means little more than a gracious parting.
It is polite and leaves a feeling of goodwill. If there was wine and spirits served, everyone gets a little warm and cozy. If you like him, why didn't you offer him your number, or invite him out yourself? Stop playing coy and trying to read things into moves that may mean little or nothing at all.
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