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writes:ok this is probably one of the most stupid questions you will have ever read but could you please try to answer it! What is actually the different between making love and just sex? I know it all involves the same thing but alot of people say its different like it wasn't making love it was sex or something. Is there any actually difference between them or does making lvoe make you feel any different from having sex. just curious. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): This is very important question!!! Not stupid, but clever, very clever. Love making is a natural result of closenes, respect, gathernes and love you experience for somebody. It hapens itself and is result of our need to express our strong feelings towards the partner. having sex is oposite of that. it happens becouse of completely different reasons and very usually is a result of anxiety, lonliness,depression, drunknes, unsatisfaction with life and trials of experimentation, ego reparing,etc... It is usually driven only by physical contact and excitment and focus is not on person but it's body. The result is usually even biger alienation between the partners and they dont like to see each other again. If repeated a lot this can cause serious psychological consequences of which is worse distorted image of the opposite sex and relatioships. It will also take time to regain ability and will to try relationship with somebody. Casual sex is very dangerous in long term run and brings serious consequences to serious relationship. if you havent try it just dont. People who are satisfied with their lives are able to build relationships with their environment. They are usually happy and good to be around. Get to know those kind of people. ;) good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): Making love is usually used when two people in love have sex. Having sex means the two people doing it together aren't in love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): I don't think it is a stupid question at all. Anyways they are the same thing. Like I refer to sex as either "sex" or "making love." What is different is having sex with someone you love as opposed to having sex with someone you don't love. Those two really are worlds apart. When you do it with someone who you have no feelings for or he doesn't have feelings for you it feels very dirty and not at all intimate. You feel like an object. It's hard to explain. It's just so detached. It's awful in my opinion. And he doesn't talk to you or hug or kiss you. And when it's over he doesn't say much. He is probably dying to leave. But when you do it with someone you love it just feels so special. Like you are one person. Like he'll kiss you while you do it. You feel so comfortable and safe with him. And he kisses you when you two are done. And after its over you hug and he tells you he loves you. And he makes you food or gets you a drink. And then you talk and he rubs your back. Its priceless. Its worth waiting for. I personally will never again do it with someone who doesn't love me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): This is not a stupid question. People get mixed up all the time about the difference and it leads to heartache too. Sex is all simply satisfying a need. No history with the other person is required...although long term partners can have sex with no emotional involvement as well. Making love is the physical manifestation of the emotion of love and like fine wine...takes time to mature and ripen. I am not going to say one or the other is better....just very different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): Jamer70 has given a very good analysis of the difference.
Everyone expects different things from the times that they are intimate with their lovers. Alot of people just has completely physical, unemotional sex and if that makes them happy then thats fine.
Making love is of course thesame act but for whatever reason is much more intense and those involved truely feel that they are connected as one, to make love is to give your body and mind
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reader, flower girl +, writes (29 September 2007):
 I aggree with Jamer 70, that is exactly what i would have said.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (29 September 2007):
 In my view
Making love is when the two people involved truley love each other and "give themselves" emotionally and psychically during the sex.
Plain sex is just normal sex, with little emotional involved. Its completly psychical.
Hope it helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): I'd say sex is just sex with any random person whether you really like them or not while making love has more feelings involved, emotionally.
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