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writes:hello everyone.ive recently got back with an ex after considering it for ages. he hurt me badly but i've decided to give him a second chance and so far everything is going well. i told my family and they weren't best pleased about it as he had hurt me before. i'm now dreading telling my friends. i'm worried they'll think its a bad idea or they'll stop talking to me. ive made my mind up about it and want things to work. whats the best way to tell them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2011): "i'm worried they'll think its a bad idea or they'll stop talking to me." Yeah they will think it's a bad idea and even some of them will back off from you, you can't blame them for that either they have to protect themselves from the inevitable mess you get into.
Just tell them. They're going to find out anyway just know that they most likely won't want him around, so you pretty much won't be able to include him in any social gatherings and if you do you may well lose friends or cause serious drama.
There's no way to tell them without getting those reactions so it's best if you just say it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2011): the only thing you really can do is to come straight out and just tell them the truth. that you've spent a lot of time thinking and decided that you thought it was the best thing for you to give it another shot. if they're true friends, they will of course be protective, and probably be more than a little frustrated (good friends HATE seeing you get hurt and only have your best intentions at heart), but ultimately love and respect you enough to let you make your own decisions and support you and be there no matter what. just be completely honest. it's your life. you have every right to make whatever decision you want without fear of judgement or criticism.
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