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writes:So I'm in this relationship, 11 months near the end of this one. Some things are wonderful and them some things just make me want to tear my hair out and smother him with a pillow. I love my boyfriend to death and I try to show him when I can that I do appreciate him. He gets easily agitated with me lately, he likes to play World of Warcraft from dawn till dusk, or Call of Duty when he isn't playing that...that I can handle even though I do think that's pretty much the relationship he's in. I'm pretty close to giving him and ultimatum, even though I dearly hate them, video games or me...Besides that, I have always been suspicious of the other girls he talks to, used to date, and still hangs around with, especially his ex girlfriend. I'm not so much worried about his ex girlfriend anymore even though they hang out ALL THE TIME....but I digress... I had been suspicious for a long time and would read his text messages, any chance I got, usually his phone is always with him, so when I get the chance I take it. I have noticed that some of his messages bother me, go figure! Well, one of the ones that desperately bother me is an old girlfriend, well, sort of an old girlfriend of his. He cheated on his most recent ex with her, and vice versa, but this ex girlfriend lives in South Dakota. They still talk constantly and just the other day I saw she was sending him nude pictures...not that I saw the pictures because he changed his password for his pictures...but I could tell what they were by how they were talking.I don't know what to do in this situation, should I confront him even though I went behind his back and read through his messages? Or should I just keep it to myself to keep from fighting with him.I try really hard to be a good girlfriend, I don't let the arguments escalate, even when he's the one being a total dick about things....I'm confused, do I hang on and hope things get better or should I just move on to different things?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 He is not the right material for your happiness. After he has given his self to his World of Warcraft and his ex's, there are only crumbs left for you .
Why settle for crumbs that drop off the table?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 "she was sending him nude pictures...not that I saw the pictures because he changed his password for his pictures...but I could tell what they were by how they were talking."
Sorry to be harsh, but a good girlfriend does not sneak around her bf's phone, messages, pictures.
Let me ask you a question: wouldn't you rather be in a relationship where you dont feel the need to do these things? Be in a relationship where you are happy, can trust your man, and he trusts you?
Clearly, you'd rather be in a relationship with a man who values YOU over gaming. I completely understand. I used to date a gaming addict. The guild in WoW always came first to him, even when his guild members valued REAL life and had him sitting for hours waiting for them. Yes, he left me sitting for hours as well, cancelling our real life plans because his guild was late, delayed, or a mission took 3 hours longer than expected. I am not exaggerating. He wouldn't even say hi to me when I came home from work because he was too busy playing. He couldn't even keep up with school work and dropped out 3 times.
Do I recommend it? Absolutely not. I say run while you still can and find a relationship better suited for you. Don't give him ultimatums and try and change him, or hope things get better. Just leave. Afer 11 months, things haven't changed a bit, so why would they within the next 11 months? He likes gaming, you don't want a boyfriend who's a gamer. You havent invested too much yet into this relationship, and even if it has it's good times, it's not what you really want. You want something else than what he can offer, and forcing him to give it to you will only work on a temporary basis.
Find someone who doesn't make you feel jealous about his ex's, someone who treats you right and makes you feel so special, and lets you know just how special you are to him, that the thought of checking his messages wont even cross your mind.
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