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writes:I was talking with this girl for about 1 month and a half. Around the 2 weeks we were making-out, kissing, and holding hands, but we were not a couple. Then she tells me that I can't see her at all any more cause of her mom. She said her mom was checking up and spying on her. That seemed strange to me. so I asked her if when we kissed or made-out, did she really mean it cause you felt something for me, she said I liked you so Ii said and now you don't? She said not like before. So I said but you still do a little, she said she doesn't know. I said what about in time, she said she doesn't know any more. I asked her where did I go wrong, she said it wasn't me it's her, she doesn't know what she wants but I don't know where her feelings faded. I need advicse on what to do. What went wrong between us. Ii'ts strange how her feelings just changed.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (23 February 2009):
 Three possibilities exist; shes telling the truth and is heavily influnced by her mother (which is possible, it's possible her dissapproval made her question the whole thing). The second is that she met somebody else who she's more attracted too and that she's backed away and the third is that she has commitment issues and the growing closeness between you has made her jittery.
1 and 3 are easily provable by you because you should know her better so you will for example, know if she is actually heavily influenced by her mother. You might also have an inkling if she has had bad past experiences with relationships which would make her think twice when she got really close. If nothing exists to your mind which could make it 1 or 3 then the most likely explanation becomes 2.
Obviously the advice given depends on which of the 3 it actually is; 1 or 3 mean it's possible things will change if you give her space. 2 means you need to move on because she was never really that into you in the first place, so knowing her I think you need to decide which is the most likely explanation and proceed accordingly. You could ask her but I dont think she will be forthcoming especially if it is 2....good luck :)
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