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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have known each other since 7th grade. We went our separate ways for college, but before my senior year, he took a year off and moved in with me. I've graduated, and now I moved to PA to be with him for his senior year. We've been living together for a year now, and all we do is fight. I'm going through some very dark moments and am very depressed, and I have bared my soul to him, telling him how miserable I am with life (not all his fault). He responds by ignoring this, frequently antagonizing me. His heart is in the right place, but he does so many stupid things, the two big ones being he lost his wallet last week and he left my purse in a shopping cart at Wal-Mart this week (both fortunately had happy endings). I kicked him out last night. We can't agree on anything, and he gets very mad at me when I am sad and is just not loving to me.My question: What should we do to fall in love with each other again? How do I heal from serious depression (I've had extensive therapy, but I've just moved and am unemployed and can't afford to go back right now) and how can I get him to become more responsible and take better care of me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): Sit him down and explain to him that you cannot do this on your own that you cannot be the glue that holds this relationship together, it takes two for a relationship to work and if your not ready for this kind of comittment then let me know because i did not waste one year for nothing. And if that dosnt work then get candles, rose petals and ensnense and oil, light the candles, spread the rose petals over the bed, light the ensence, keep the oil in hand, wait till he comes home and WOW him. I know that is supose to be the guys job but if words want work then actions will.
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reader, Misty_Rain +, writes (4 June 2007):
 Well try to fall back in love with one another by going out on dates...like you had just met one another. My boyfriend and I (if going through hard times) go out on dates. We pick a date and go out to dinner and a movie, just the two of us. And it seems to help. We get personal time with one another. And when I am upset or depressed I have to sit him down and make him listen to what I have to say. And try and get him to talk about it. I talk with my sister about everything and anything if I need someone else to talk to.
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