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30-35,
*ustme4me
writes:He doesnt care to know how am doing or if i even still exist and i dont know what to do.I've always tried to guide my heart against wavering men but i think i just let my wall crumble without even trying to uphold it.i met this guy like 3yrs a go and we both had a thinh going and all of a sudden,i noticed he doesnt care no more.He wouldnt come c me unless i pressure him to,doesnt call back when he sees my miss calls...stuffs like that.At first i tried to c reasons cos he's a final year student of linguistics,so much school work and all that,but i discovered he just doesnt dig me 4 no reason.there is so much i want to say but i dont know how to start,i've never loved so stupidly like this before,and he knows this and uses it to his advantage.In the last 4 month,he's never called and when i do he sounds so less concerned and all i do is cry.To make things worse,we attend the same school,im a 2nd yr student,we live in d same town and we are both from the same village.It's like he's every where i go but i still cant have him.I really do need honest answers as per what to do.I still love him though he's caused me so much pain,but i no longer want to think of him or see him and i dont know if i can build back my defence wall cos he knows me so well like the palm of his own hand.Im begining to lose my cool,i cant even do things right anymore.Plz help me make a right decision but bear in mind that i never wronged him,not even 4 a second. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): He has lost interest in you and so you have to let him go because if you continue like this you will lose all your self respect.Wait till someone shows a clear interest in you and then don't go overboard. Try and find some interests in life that will take your attention away from this man. I don't mean other men, I mean things that will be around whether you have a man or not.
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reader, Schizkid  +, writes (1 November 2009):
It's time to let go. This guy is causing you more pain than he is worth. It sounds like you have really made a great effort to keep the relationship going, but it really does take to. Pick up a new hobby, start going out with friends, even take dance lessons! You can not wait for him to realize the great woman he has lost. Most of all, do not blame yourself! Speaking as a guy I can tell you we do the dumbest flakiest stuff for no reason. Life is out there, get back to living it. You will probably find its even better with out him.
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