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writes:Hi.I got a bf, i do love him very much but we stay away from each other and only get to see once in two weeks when he comes home. Now this guy around my area is proposing me. He seems good and loving and wouldn't do things to force me in anyway. He has given me a lot of time to think about this as he's been eyeing me for weeks now. Im starting to see just how much we click, and i was with him again just today. Im considering visiting his place in three days. Personally, i don't see anything wrong with us hangging out and im glad i can handle myself pretty well around guys. But what i'm not certain about is if i should try and pursue something with this guy since he's closer? I know i won't get as far as sex with him, and my bf won't find out! So is it what my man don't knw won't hurt him or im just blindly walking in quick sand? Reply to this Question
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reader, Kadisha +, writes (24 June 2008):
Kadisha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTanks guys for replying to my question.. Infact, i was with this guy again yesterday. Well, i can't pursue a relationship with him anymore, i had enough time to rethink this and this is the decision i took. Im satisfied with my bf, he's what i want. I don't know if my feelings about this guy are driven by the fact that he has a baby! Well, yeah thats true, i also found out when i was with him yesterday.. Even if my thing with him was not gonna be serious but i think that in most cases, men who have babies have a way of makin every next relationship they are involved in serious and i'v got my man, i think i was also being selfish and thinking like a high school girl.. So its just best i leave the poor guy for another girl who will love and honour him. Big ups to my bf!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): You think that he won't know, but don't bet on it. Unless you are a totally non-caring individual, you will show signs of guilt when you are with your boyfriend. If you want to do that then either break up with him or talk to him and tell him that you would also like to date another guy. When I first started dating the woman who is now my wife, she wanted me to date others, as she was my first after my divorce. I was dating another woman and they both knew about the other. The other woman told me that she could tell that I felt guilty about dating both at the same time. I think that you will show guilt also.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): if you do pursue this man just think of the consequences if your bf does find out about it, i dont think that he is going to be interested whether its a kiss or sex cheatings cheating and its wrong for anyone to do it. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): I am going to answer you with a very simple and basic question;
How will you feel if your boyfriend does what you are doing or intend doing?
What is the point of being in a relationship?
Rather call it quits with your boyfriend; explain to him that you can remain friends; that you want to go out and date other guys; without feeling quilty or that you are cheating;
Honesty is always the bet policy!
Think about it and then decide!
Don't rush into anything!
Good luck!
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