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writes:what makes a boy want you even more then he alredy does? before me and my boyfriend were dating he chased after me and i played hard to get ... he chased after me and showed me how muchh he wanted me.... now we are together and he feels like he has me! how do i get him to be afraid to lose me and to show him like i dont need him ill be fine without him . Reply to this Question
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reader, No_Nonsense  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Hi there
The thing is that once people get comfy in relationships, they feel secure and that can be a nice feeling! That's what we strive for. But that said, we also want to feel appreciated.
How about being more mysterious with him, have your own life apart from him and don't be too available to him when he wants you? Show him that he needs to work for you and that relationships require some effort to keep them going.
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (17 February 2009):
 People come to take each other for granted in every relationship. If you're in a long-term relationship, you're bound to lose the excitment of the pursuit.
Ideally, your partner should trust you and trust that you won't cheat on him; so really, it's not an ideal situation to have your boyfriend on pins and needles, afraid to lose you. But I understand it would be nice if he made an effort.
I suggest you have a life apart from him. Continue to hang out with friends and do things with your family. Take classes, pursue hobbies, do things without him. Maybe that will get the message across that you're independent, and it may create more of an allure as well.
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