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writes:What kind of girl does a guy consider special and different What about her physically mentally spiritually and emotionally will make her stand out from the rest? I hear a lot of women say things like “If a guy loses me, he’ll never find anyone else like me.” Or “I’m the best he’s ever had, I’m loyal” or “Good women always get played.” It’s good for a woman to think highly of herself but are you really as special, worthy and different like you think? Like what exactly makes a woman much more special and different from the rest that she stands out. What do guys think makes a girl different? Is it all about how she carries herself mentally and emotionally? Is it about her morals and how she respects herself? Many women put themselves on a pedestal but if a guy was to ask what makes you different besides being able to cook, being loyal and besides just saying “I’m different and special.” Are you really different and special or are you just making yourself believe you are? Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (5 April 2018):
 As an experienced man, I'm really having trouble answering this. I've just read some questions from women complaining that their man doesn't treasure them or make them feel special. 20 years ago when my younger brothers were getting married, their brides mothers advised my brothers to always treat their daughters like a princess. Over the years I've seen how spectacularly bad that advice is. The quickest way a man can destroy his marriage is to spoil his Partner. So if you are looking for things you can do to get a man to spoil you like a bratty princess stop reading now. On the other hand if you want to be the most treasured person in his life read on.
What a good man needs is a good partner. A good partner is not an opponent. A good partner is not a leader. A good partner is not trying to change him into her image of what he should be. A good partner is one who is as strong as him. A good partner is able to give him advice, and comfort. A good partner makes decisions with him, not for him. And then the good partner sticks with him.
A good partner is also a partner in recreation. When he plays she plays with him. She rejoices in his victories, and morns his defeats. And he does the same for her. If she is not participating by his side she is there to cheer him on or to welcome him home. She has interest in his interests.
A good partner is loyal and trustworthy. She (or he) does not need the attention of others to be validated. Partners have eyes only for each other.
Partners are reliable. When the going gets tough your partner is right there with you. A partner does not whine about the sacrifices you make together. a Good partner can be counted on to give their all.
A good partner is aware of their partners needs. he knows her schedule and what she will need. He is sympathetic and willing to make sure she has what needs. In his partner a man finds the special person in his life the person who is different from all others because she is what no other can be, His Partner.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 April 2018):
 I think it depends on the woman AND the man.
You can THINK you are special, unique, one-of-a-kind but that doesn't mean the guy in front of you want THAT kind of woman. Maybe he likes a "beige basic one".
Some prefer the quiet girls, some the loud, the proud etc.
Being on a pedestal is never good. No matter if YOU stepped up there or a guy put you there because you really only have one was to go... And that is... Down.
Knowing yourself, having a standard and sticking with it. Being a good person. Having a sense of humor. Being smart. Liking yourself. Those are all good traits. Some people have them all, some have 1 or a few. But even having "great traits" doesn't mean you are "special" or people will flock to you.
Values, morals, standards are all good things to consider. As long as you BELIEVE in them and don't just take them on as a mantle to "look" good in other people's eyes.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (4 April 2018):
 What's "special" to one person is pointless to a billion others (literally).
Being confident is one thing, but being arrogant is another. "Special" means different things to different people.
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