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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend is mad about me for two reasons.1. I was making a right turn into a an alley. I had a passenger in my car with me. My gf's sister was walking along the side making it difficult to make the turn. After about 10sec of waiting, I inexplicably said "Dam it. Get out of my way." No one heard it except for the passenger. As we got out the car, the passenger told the sister that I said something bad about her, jokingly, to the sister. The sister didn't have much of a reaction.And then the passenger saw my gf standing at the door and said that I said something bad about her. Supposedly, the passenger was not very clear who she was referring to when she talked to my gf. My gf then went to me and said that the passenger just told her that I said something bad about her. I repeatedly said no. And then she asked again, and I said, "No, I didn't say anything bad about you." She kept asking about 4 times at which point out of frustration I said, "You're lying."For 2 days, she didn't call me. I finally told my gf to call the passenger and place her on a 3-way call except the passenger didn't know that I was on the line. The passenger explained that she was only joking about the "bad thing" and that I would never say anything bad about my gf. Now she blamed the passenger saying that she was mad because the passenger told her so. I did apologized to my gf for saying "You're lying." Of course, after the passenger ended the phone call, she simply said "I believe you." I felt pretty angry at those words, and told her that why do I have to defend myself like that?2. She was also mad at me for saying "Dam it. Get out of my way." while I was in the car. She said that I called her sister name. I said I didn't call your sister any name. I only said those words in the car. And then she kept repeating that I was rude. Before I left the place that night, I apologized to the sister, who was in the changing closet. I assumed the sister heard it, because she said "yeah ok." Of course, my gf then said that I had not apologized to the sister, of which I said yes I did. The sister even responded.I know I said some stuffs that I shouldn't have and I properly apologized to each. But I feel like with my gf, I am usually guilty before proven innocent. She now blames the fact that she was mad because of the passenger and that I didn't explain the situation clearer to her.What is your take on this? Please as brutal as possible. I want to learn as a person on what I can do better. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): My take - your girlfriend is slightly immature and somebody who likes drama. Its been blown way out of proportion and if I had been you I would have apologised once,explained and then when the accusations flew, got in my car and driven off into the sunset
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): I'm sorry but this doesn't seem like anything worth getting so upset about. I wouldn't even take the time to think about it twice. You might have said something, but you apologized, to both your gf and her sister, and now they need to get over this petty BS. If they decide to hold something so small against you and make it into this big a deal, she probably isn't mature enough to be dating anyways. Best of luck!~
PS: Be careful with what you say *out loud*
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