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writes:Greetings from New Zealand. I found your site while surfing the web. It is a good site. I see that you answer questions regarding sexuality. I have a few questions. I’m 15 and my girlfriend is also the same age. We have been friends for years. We have become girlfriend/boyfriend for the last year and a half. We have been dating. It has been a blast. We love spending time together and doing many fun things together. Within the last half year we have become closer we love to talk, hold each other, hold hands, pet, and of course kiss. There is more that I want to do and I know the same is true for her. We are both virgins. I would like to see and touch her breasts unclothed. I have not see a woman naked and I would really like to see her naked. And naturally I would like to have sex with her. I have said these things to her. She has talked a bit about her desires as well. Sometimes I try to mention these things casually however she thinks I am joking and does not take me seriously. What is your advice about getting her to take me seriously about these things? How can I make these wishes known to her? Is there a way I should ask for things like this? When and if I get to see and touch her breasts unclothed what things can I do with my hands and mouth that she may enjoy? Do you think that the chance to see and touch her breasts unclothed, see her naked, and have sex with her will happen in stages or all at once? What can I do to help these wishes to come true? Thank you for answering my questions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2008): I am sure that there are others who may step forward and give you tips but frankly, I am not going to tell you how to go about, seducing your gf. Sex is an hugely serious, life altering act that could change lives forever. You are a hormonal 15 year old adolescent male. And until you are old enough to shoulder the responsibilities and consequences of this act...you may have to 'resign' yourself googling this topic, You have desires, you want sex, you want to do this, you want to do that. Reread your posting...it's about all that 'you' want. Being in a healthy relationship is all about generosity, respect and not 'taking'. I would state she doesn't take you seriously because all your behaviors could be a bit unsettling to her, Give this process time, hopefully until you are old enough to understand the seriousness of just what you want from her. So show her your respect and just ease back and stop pressuring her.
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reader, g247  +, writes (22 February 2008):
It's good that the two of you are both virgins and can go through this process together. It will make it a lot easier on both of you.If you've talked about this stuff with her before, then chances are she's got the hint and just chooses to ignore it because she's more than likely nervous.Try to have a serious chat with her on the matter. Get her to open up to you and give a straight answer. She could easily say that she doesn't want to have sex at this time and you'll have to respect that.As far as techniques go, try and make things comfortable for her is your safest bet. Some women have sensitive breasts that touching, licking and sucking will effect, some have rock hard breasts that won't respond to even the most sensuous of acts. But your gf is going to feel very nervous and uncomfortable being naked and doing all of this with someone for the first time. Make sure she's constantly reassured, don't just go crazy at seeing a woman's breasts and the rest for the first time! Make sure she's comfortable and always feels beautiful, like there's nobody else you'd rather be with in the world, and she'll settle into it.If you're really that stuck when it comes to the 'What to do' part of foreplay, go educate yourself and watch some porn! A lot of it can be ridiculous, mind, but it'll at least give you a general idea.And the first time isn't going to be the best either. It'll probably be awkward and both of you will likely be extremely tense. Just try and make it fun and relaxed and you'll be alright!
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