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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I broke up with my exbf September last year because he said he just wanted to have fun with me and he didn't need serious relationship with me because he has too many girlfriends. Afterward, I dated a new guy, and now I have a new bf who really loves me . The thing is I am still so obsessively in love with my exbf, I wrote all about him on my facebook. What so surprising is that I found out from his friend that my exbf love to create fake facebook account and added me, pretended to be new friends, talking to me, asked me bout my lovelife and private things and thats how he knew how I feel for him as he read all the poetry and notes I made for him. Plus he paid too many of his friends to spy on me and he even went to witchdoctor to find out about me.2months ago, I met him on our friend's party and he checked on text messages on my mobile phone and was angry as he saw my new bf's messages and he did violent things to me and calling me traitor. He even said we are still gf and bf.Then a month ago he sent his friends to seduce me, pretended falling in love with me, and he made a great joke of me and spreading false gossip to many guys that I am a lesbian, mentally ill, lonely and that I am a filthy hooker and some racial jokes. My family blamed me for his action instead of consoling me, everyone hated me. So I deactivated my facebook accounts and changed my phone numbers. And just a week ago, he was drunk and called me from my little sister's number, asking to meet me and told me that he's going to kill himself as I said that I didn't want to meet him, there were sounds of him making riot and ppl were so worried of him and as I met him, he looked quite messed, but instead of saying sorry to me, he told me how many girls he had fucked and as if I wasn't as great as them..and he even said "goodbye,bitch!" to me.I went home in total heartbroken. My love is gone. And yesterday he texted me asking me to not hate him, and that he is so jealous of my new bf and saying sorry. He also said that he has no gf, and as I met him, he was very different, he is so nice and he asked me to come back to him... His flatmate said he didn't sleep for days, talking too much about me, he didn't behave and was making riot all nite and as I came he finally could behave. What is wrong with my exbf? Is he a split personality? Do you think he loves me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2012): Oh my, thanks guys for the brilliant answers. Thanks a million for opening my eyes that my ex is just a nutjob. I am just too naive to realize this things. Yes, I will stay faraway from him, and I believe you are right, whatever happen to him is not my concern at all.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 February 2012):
 he is manipulative and he does NOT love you. He only loves himself and he's being selfish with his behavior.
IGNORE HIM and get on with your life. He's an EX for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2012): "What is wrong with my exbf?"Not your concern. All you needed to know was there's something wrong, that's why he's your ex, that's why it's not your concern. "Is he a split personality?'Not your concern. All you needed to know was there's something wrong, that's why he's your ex, that's why it's not your concern. "Do you think he loves me?"What is wrong with you? To answer your question: I know he doesn't love you due to his constant pattern of lying, cheating, abusive, controlling, cruel, demeaning, insulting, sociopathic behavior toward you over several months, as you so meticulously and voluminously document. You want to think he loves you because he asked you to NOT HATE HIM and HE IS SO JEALOUS and HE IS SO SORRY and HE HAS NO GF and HE WAS VERY DIFFERENT and HE IS SO NICE and HE ASKED YOU TO COME BACK TO HIM and according to his flatmate (a neutral unimpeachable third party) HE DIDN'T SLEEP FOR DAYS and was TALKING TOO MUCH ABOUT YOU and WAS MAKING RIOT ALL NIGHT and it wasn't until you arrived to save the day HE COULD FINALLY BEHAVE.I see what he does, which is disrespect you and demean you and criminally stalk you in order to control your every word, move and thought as easily as pushing a button or pulling a string to get exactly the response he wants from you at any given moment. You listen to whatever he tells you, which is exactly what you want to hear to play on your vanity, ego, emotions and misplaced sympathy. Nobody else with any ounce of sanity would think he loves you but you want to think he loves you because he pays attention to you, and that's just the way he wants it, and that's why you'll probably never get it until too late, if at all.
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