A
female
age
30-35,
*eopard_spots
writes:Okay, a little background...Me and my guy have been together for almost 2 months. I'm something like a year and 5 months older than him. We met at an anime convention and we live 6.5 hours away from each other. Neither of us are bothered by this fact. He hasn't been in a relationship for a number of years because he felt like he wasn't good enough. I haven't been in a relationship in a while because I'm terribly picky. So, for me to take this much of an interest in him is a big deal.Alright, so, I'm probably overthinking this entire thing. That's what I've been doing since I knew he was interested. He's always really sweet and comforting and it's VERY obvious that he likes me. Basically, he's everything I've been looking for in a man and I'm really comfortable telling him anything. The problem is is that he has self-esteem issues, to the point that I can hardly compliment his looks (he's very handsome) without him denying it. He never accepts that I find him attractive. He also thinks he's a bad person, which he's totally not.Well, I wrote him this ridiculous, romantic message a couple of weeks ago and told him that I thought I might be falling for him. I didn't tell him I love him, just that I might be falling for him. I also told him how great I thought he was and that it was alright if he didn't feel the same. He didn't respond to it, but he's been acting different ever since I wrote him that message. It's like that was the okay for our relationship to be a lot more physical. He's been complimenting my body a lot and we even had a discussion about his parts.Then, a few days ago, he was considering joining the military and I told him I'd be worried that something would happen to him because he was the best thing that's ever happened to me. So, he goes "Lol not really."The proceeding argument was basically me going off on him for beating himself up all the time, and trying to convince him that I genuinely cared about him. Since that day, he seems less affectionate than usual. He could just be busy and be stressed out, but he's been talking to me like we're just friends. (He usually calls me some manner of pet name every time we talk.)So, I don't understand how he can go from calling me his "perfect princess" and telling me he misses me, to acting like we're just chums. :S
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