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writes:My girlfriend broke up with me one month ago. She did this all the time for one entire year, so is a usual behaviour she has eveytime I point her mistakes. She never says "I'm sorry". Instead she says "I don't want this relationship anymore".But because she didn't did any efforts to be with me we ended up in different cities. So, this time I just gave up. One month without replies to her.But I don't understand her emails and I don't understand what she really wants with me. She contradicts too much. One moment she doesn't want anything, the next she wants to know what I'm doing, after she wants, then she quits again... what is this????I love her and that is why I cannot stop thinking about her. But I don't know what to expect from her.I want her in my life but I don't know what to expect.I want to talk to her but I'm afraid to get hurt again as I love her deeply.My friends don't want to hear this story anymore so I count on this website as my last resource. I feel like a wreck and don't know what to do anymore. Without anyone advices I would just quit. I feel too tired with this woman.This are her last emails...11.October"I should have known and learn by now your tecnics and not waiting for any sign from you. I remember last time I was in front of a door waiting for you knowing that you will never show off. It is you that is all. I wish we did not hurt each other so badly, I wish we could have been more careful. I wish we could have shown to everyone what love can do but it did not happen, on the contrary. What I know from failures (and I had a 1million) is behind it there is understanding and success. So yes, I am very sad not to be the one that will make you be happy and dream, I am hurt to think about our past together and our present apart, but I always wish for your happiness and believe in a life together (even if it was not clear for you) so I hope that no matter what happened you are now experiencing, living and re-finding la joie de vivre that you had lost with me. Tonight I have to be strong and admit my defeat. I have to let you go even if I will never be able to get you out of my heart. good luck my love, show to everyone who you are and love again."7.October"I am begging you to help me. I need to know if you are better on your own wherever you are, than with me,if it is over. I cannot make the death of us if you don't help me as I cannot stop thinking about us. I await for your reply"28.September"I know that you have decided not to talk to me anymore because you believe it is better for both of us. I suppose you know better then me what is the best. Everyday I said to myself that you have taken the right decision as we were hurting eachother. But despite our fights, our hates, I miss you as before.I don't know if you will receive or open this email but I am concern for you and I hope you are doing well. I love you. Take care of yourself."
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): Your girlfriend or ex girlfriend sounds like she likes high drama and has been reading too many romantic tragic books or watching the same sort of films. Life is not this ridiculous drama. Either your relationship was successful and harmonious or it wasn't. She sounds unbalanced. I think you are better off without her. Ok, so there are regrets on both sides that things did not work out differently but that's life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): This woman is horribly and I mean HORRIBLY immature and manipulative and controlling. AND you said it yourself, "you dont know what to expect"!! Therefore, Id stay separated from this woman and cut her completely out as she will stop at nothing to get a hold of u. I know these type bro lol. Block your email, fb, myspace, phone, and lock ur doors!! I see this potentially getting out of hand on her end and I wouldnt say you can ever be too cautious. Protect your personal well being or you can always hire me as your bodyguard :)
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 You need to move on from her and find someone who appreciates you.
She is trying to play mind games with you and control you - dont let her win that. Love and relationships should not be about games but sadly they are for a lot of people.
When two people are in love and not just infactuated or lusful the games go "out the window" and the relationship starts to develop for what it is.
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reader, Elf, The Mighty Love Wizard +, writes (13 October 2010):
If I were you, I would just say, "Bye- Bye!! I'm through!!!" To me she's just screwing with you,man. First she starts sucking up because she realized she did something wrong and that it was her fault, and then she writes a very short "plea" followed by in a repetitive poem- like note acting all concerned. Just forget about her, Trust me you don't want her because she's in a different town and you will find a better girl someday. Everybody does. ( don't feel bad, I'm 13 and still have never had a girlfriend.) :(
Elf, The Mighty Love Wizard.
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