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*taunton5410
writes:My boyfriend changes his mood all of the time. One minute he is being so sweet to me and being so loving, and the next he will just get mad at me for me saying something which in my eyes is not bad, he is just very sensitive and overreacting. Then he will stop talking to me until I say that I am sorry to him. I feel that I shouldnt apologize if I didnt do something. For instance: I went to work while he was still sleeping and I didnt kiss his cheek before i left. He told me that it was child-ish because he always kisses me. I get so confused, I feel like he is bi-polar or something. But as I was saying he will change his mood so frequently. When he is happy, he is really nice to me but when he is mad, he doesnt talk to me, tells me to leave him alone, threatens to break up with me, and tells me once i apologize to him he will start talking to me, and if I dont he is fine with not talking to me. What is the deal here? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): That sounnds like my Ex BF. Insecurity is one cause as most PERFECTIONISTS care about the perfect anything, perfect love, perfect relationship. It's about control.
Narcissists are also about finding perfect, unrealistic love, and when they feel their "flaws" are pointed out, they fly into a rage and begin blaming you as you are the unequal, the lesser being to them.
I say run.
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reader, edsbabygirl +, writes (4 August 2007):
 Jtaunton,
Your boyfriend is earning his control over you. He is molding you into what he wants you to be like. That is why he threatens to break up with you. Truth is, he is immature.
In a very similar situation I am. My boyfriend is bipolar. He doesn't take medication. He goes from happy to sad faster then a fat kid after an ice cream truck. I loe him to death so I put up with it. He always threatens to break up with me if I am unhappy or just not interested. He even calls me his puppydog sometimes and says "come here girl". It hurts my feelings but I deal with it.
Honestly if you know you want something more, you deserve better. I think you should either take some control in the relationship, or just tell him you are going to be is lap dog.
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