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writes:I have a good friend who I love very much. I would like to have taken ourrelationship further but on the occasions when we have shared a bed he has not made any move other than a cuddle. The last time we shared a bed I took all my clothes off and I told him take his teashirt off, which he did. He just told me I was 'cheeky' and went to sleep. He is divorced with two girls but he doesn't see them very much. He does torment me a bit because sometimes when we meet for dinner, he will kiss me full on the lips when we say goodnight and then I become completely confused as to how he views me. He recently went to Brazil on his own on holiday and was there for a few weeks. I was keeping up with him on Facebook and noticed that he was posting photos of him with young guys but there were also one or two girls from time to time. He does seem to like the company of young guys (he is 41) and says that he is their 'spiritual father'. One guy who he became 'friends' with on Facebook, posted a photo of himself in his underpants, but with just the underpants part as the photo. I can read portuguese and yesterday he told a girl in Rio that he had to get back to Rio by a certain time as 'the boyfriend will kill me'. However, on his Facebook page he says he is interested in women. He loves to dance and in some of the photos of himself in Brazil he really looks a bit gay as his clothes are completely different. All the evidence is staring me in the face and yet he was married for 13 years and had a girlfriend after that. I love him so much and don't know what to think at all.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 February 2010):
 There is another probability.
He could have ED problems and he does not want to venture there.He is scared that you will be terribly disappointed that he cannot perform.
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (24 February 2010):
 Yeah....I think he's gay too! I know how hard that is to accept, and I'm sorry!
I suggest you come right out and ask him! It may be a relief to come out to you.
Hey! Gay guys make really good friends of women, though. So, you wouldn't have to lose him as a friend! You really have nothing to lose by confronting him.
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reader, Indianchic +, writes (24 February 2010):
You dont love him, you just love the idea of being in love with someone, its all in the mind, look around yourself there are plenty of straight men around you. This guy sounds like Gay , the fact that you are dicussing about his sexuality is a clear indication that you know the answer already, dont feel let down, just bless your stars for you didnot sleep with someone Gay, Move on baby and do it now.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): Well, he sounds gay . Gay guys are sexual, so they tend to be sexual with women. But if you were both lying in bed naked and he didn't make a move, then you can probably write him off as a friend.However, one of my friends, a woman, had the biggest and greatest love affair with a gay man. They fell in love. But she said sex was really painful for him cause he was gay.So, I mean, maybe love will blossom. But he sounds pretty damn gay to me.
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