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writes:My boyfriend has been through a divorce and so has many of his friends. He knows I like the idea of us getting married, but he wants a logical reason why a man should get married. For a woman, we will get financial security, we get a dream wedding to brag to friends about. But what about for a guy? In today's society, it is not as important for the piece of paper to show the commitment in a relationship. If a couple loves each other, there's no need for that piece of paper. On the other hand, if a couple doesn't love each other anymore, even if they get married, it's as easy as to get a divorce. When that happens, the losing side is always the guys. If you have an insight you would like to share, I would love to hear from you.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (11 August 2011):
 This question had me stumped but I ran across an interesting article today that might help you.
http://artofmanliness.com/2008/11/30/the-case-for-marriage/
I sure hope it's o k to post links here.
Personally I'm quite happy to be married. All of life is a risk, why not secure your future in any way that will help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2011): Wow, I just love that last answer. Now a woman won't even guarantee her faithfulness to you unless you have already married her?
Let's face it - there IS NO valid reason for men to get married these days in the USA. It's practically all added financial liabilities and practically no added benefits for us. I believe in marriage on principle but the practicalities of the legal system today make it an idiotic thing for men to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2011): I recently asked an elder a similar question.
If you don't believe in god , is there really a reason for marriage?
Here is the conclusion I came up with based on my conversations with elder family members and friends,(and some strangers)
for women it is financial security,a dream wedding and EMOTIONAL security. the last one is the most important for the woman to know she is getting.
For a Man, it is a deep physical, intellectuality, emotional connection to the woman. (meaning no other man gets to have her) He gets the woman and all her goodies to himself.
Also, for couples
Wanting to share the happiness of who they are with (or when)they are with each other,built on trust, honesty and a desire to connect as one. committing to sticking around when things are good and bad!
so here is the logical reason you can give your boyfriend...
ready... IF the two of you get married he has proven his committing to you and you will only share your goodies with him! Its your emotional security (his as well) that you wont just bail when things get tough! Also there is less risk of him loosing your goodies to someone else who does maybe want to get married in the future because that's what you want form your relationship!
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