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writes:I have been with my partner for just over 2 years now, he has just returned from a 7 month tour of Iraq and whilst he was away he asked me to marry him, I did of course accept as we are very much in love and have a fantastic relationship. He came home in those 7 months for a 10 day break and we went and ordered my engagement ring, however it came when he had returned to Iraq. He told me he would ask me properly and put my ring on once he got home for good, however he has been home for 6 weeks now and it hasn't been mentioned except for 3 days ago when he asked why I wasnt wearing my ring to which I replied because he hadn't given it to me as yet and that was the end of the conversation!! Is it me being paranoid or has he had chance to think about it and doesn't want to marry me anymore? I don't think this is the case as the children are aware of it, but what is his hold up in giving me the ring and starting arrangements? Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (19 July 2007):
 Tell him hows he made you feel hun. As you said it wasn't very fair of him to ask to then take it back. We all have things in our past that can make us wary of taking the next step and things but he can't take the step then take it back without expecting you to feel a little hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for all the replies i have received, I have spoken to him and basically he is scared of losing it all as he did with his ex wife. While i can understand this and wish he would believe that nothing will go wrong on my behalf, it does hurt that he feels this way when he asked me in the first place and obviously didnt think about it before he did!!!! I think iwill just forget about it and leave it up to him.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (19 July 2007):
Ask him what's going on.
He may have asked you because he thought he might get killed while serving and didn't want to have not asked you, or he still could be "getting over" what he saw while away and is relaxing back in to normal life.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 Ask him outright where is your ring.
The greatest compliment a man can give a woman is to marry her.
The greatest compliment a woman can give a man is to bear his children.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, flower girl +, writes (18 July 2007):
 Maybe you should try and extend that conversation and ask him why he has not given you the ring yet as you would love to wear it and to let people know you have made a commitment to each other.
Take care.xx.
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