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writes:Hey Agony aunts! :)Let’s put some code names for the people in my story: My crush= Poul, My friend= Jenna and her twin brother= Justin. A friend= Sreya, A Frined= Ennie. My bff=Nate, friend= Sunny. I met poul on a summer program 8 months ago. I was new and didn’t have that many friends. A friend one day introduced me to Jenna. Jenna invited me to sit with her friends at lunch. Poul was there. Justin and Poul are really good friends. The next day I couldn’t find them so I sat somewhere else. Later I saw Poul looking at me and holding eye contact. So I moved back to sit with them. Justin is in my class too and used to come to see him. They were at the bathroom one day and the girls were talking about him. I didn’t even know his name. But I kind of guessed it but still asked Jenna. She was like oh it is the guy who is always with us, he is coming. He was in the hallways almost inside the cafeteria by then and I could tell he was guessing something was going on here since Jenna was pointing her fingers at him. He came sitting as she was introducing us. He looked pretty confused and shy so he kept looking at her and me. Note: He used to sit in front of me everyday on the other side of the table facing me. They started speaking Spanish so I didn’t know what they were talking about. Jenna was sitting beside me and she turned to ask if I like Poul. I was confused and thought maybe they were talking about being friends so I said yes. I was confused again to see Poul was asking Jenna impatiently what I said but after she told him he blushed as and looked down after he looked at me. I was so confused but later I found out what exactly it was about. I ignored it tho. There was an extra lunch at the table and we didn’t know who’s lunch it was so we kept tossing it to each other so we wouldn't have to trash it. Poul tossed it at me. I tossed it to Ennie who spacing out. So we all started laughing. I looked at Poul he looked back sushing me with a wink. I was surprised. I noticed he would stare at me with a grin or always point his fingers at me if anyone talked about any girl among us and he used to always think it was me. And like I said he used to sit facing me at the table, his knees fully touched mine all the time we were at the cafeteria like our whole legs! I would always see him staring at me at the hallways while passing or nervously looking at places and at me not trying to look too long which kind of mirrored mine. And his eye contacts were too long and frequent.Ennie one day told me that Poul was ignoring her and she thinks he hates her. It kind of made me feel weird and right then he walked up to us, said something in Spanish. Ennie smiled and walked away. I saw Poul looking back at me again and again as he was walking away with a grin. He didn’t even say bye! He used to always look at me when he did something. He was a total show up. Later after summer ended I realized I really like him. I told my friends but not mutual friends and they told me I was getting too obsessed. I thought this would fade away cuz it was just a little crush but it turned out I was wrong.On the first day of school I saw him at the same lunch. I sat alone and he sat at the table in front of me. Later he turned his torso toward me with his best friend and they were laughing and pointing their fingers at me!. He used to even look at me with the corner of his eyes, “accidently bump into me, looking a bit jealous when I talk to any guy, always stick around, staring at me with his mouth open and sitting straight and everything!Then one day he saw me getting out of class and he looked down and I looked at him again to see if it was really him and he looked back at me in shock but looked away and passed ignoring me. From the next day he started avoiding me. For example he would take a totally diff way if he saw me coming. Later I thought I should do something like giving him hints? That didn’t work so I gave up. He then started givng me mixed signals again!. I once tried talking to him but he was fidgeting and was just shaking his head. I was mad and left! Note: he is always nervous wihtout his friends and this is one of those times.I told some other friends and one day we stalked him. We got obsessed so we used to do it every day for 2 weeks. He used to smile at us at me more! But never confronted us.One day Poul kept looking back at me as he was going back to class cuz I wasn’t coming. I remember him doing this before.Then I disappeared… No word, nothing because my dad was sick and I had to come to my hometown. Only my friends knew where I was and others had no idea and he didn’t too. He looks at my friends every time they mention me and he always walks faster after that. It is been months and I am still not in contact with him. I tried with following him in insta but he didn’t follow back… We are going to the same school next year but idk cuz I wasn’t there for months. Sunny rides the same bus as Poul, said that she saw Poul being a bit too touchy with a girl. She said she saw her holding his hand after getting out of the bus and she was holding his bag to get off.. Idk if they are just really good friends or are dating but this is making me feel more confused! Idk if I was misreading him all this time. What should I do? Did he move on? I am not sure what he thinks of me…I asked Nate today to tell him that her friend likes him without mentioning me. Idk anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2022): OP! You are only just a kid! SLOW YOUR ROLL! Focus on school and your future. Boys are a dime a dozen. Don't waste your time on them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2022): Well I am the one who wrote this. I asked my friends if I look like I give him enough clue that I like him but they said no I look totally normal around him like I don't even know him. And we are not friends and not even in the same circle anymore and we don't talk. And Sunny is a girl but she likes someone too. But that is not the point. I know Sunny doesn't really want me to fall any deeper for Poul cuz she doesn't really like him. I don't know why but she doesn't. And Poul don't even get me started on him. He is hot and cold. He looks awfully into it sometimes considering we aren't close but sometime he acts like he doesn't even know me. My friends say the same thing. And I don't know about what girl Sunny was talking about but she only saw them together once! But Idk they could be really good friends? Idk what I am trying to do. Maybe comforting myself saying that he will never forget about me? I just really like Poul. I am just so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2022): If you saw with your own eyes that Poul was with another girl; then you'll know for sure if he has moved on. You only have it through gossip that he seems to like another girl.
Now you have to remember, you have not been in touch for months; and he never gave you a way to reach him directly, or through social media. Maybe he was too shy then; but if there may be another girl in the picture now. She seems to be more aggressive and openly flirty. That type will claim a boy for her boyfriend, even if he really isn't! You've let him know you liked him, but he never got past winks, looks, and smiles. He has had the chance to man-up!
I want to be honest. I think Poul likes you like a friend, and as a part of the group. He has moved on now, but maybe when you run into each-other you should ask him if he has a girlfriend? You can't always go by gossip; because sometimes people you think are your friends do mean things, because they are jealous.
Sunny, the friend who told you what they saw, might be interested in Poul herself, if she is a girl. She might even be the girl she was telling you about! If Sunny is a boy, maybe he secretly likes you; and told you that to get you away from Poul. Who knows? You didn't see it with your own eyes, so lets just say it is inconclusive.
You have to talk to Poul, and stop hiding behind shyness. If he likes you, like you like him, you will not know until he personally tells you so! Then ask him what he's going to do about it? You have competition now, unless he tells you that he is seeing that girl. Then you have to move on.
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