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writes:hi, Im back again with these SIL thing. I got your answers to the question however I dont think it done me much justice. Im still having these feeling in fact I woke up thinking about her. What if i cant stop it? I know im married and so is she with kids but I will always be a dad to my son no matter what and vice versa for her Id say. My last question I forgot to add some things. My sister in law husband ask me if i would be willing to trade wives for one night. At first I was kinda upset at the question he asked me but when we started talking about it I was finding myself interested. Thats what has started this whole thing anyway and Im thinking about it alot.I have always thought my SIL was hot but I have never took my thoughts this far with it. I would honestly go through with it if everyone envoled was wanting to. Its pretty obivous were my brother in law mind is at on the subject. More and likely i will forget about it after awhile. I would to the trade but Im thinking of just me and her at this point. Im thinking of maybe just get her alone and share my thoughts with her and see what happens. Shes no angel anyway but I really dont know how shes gonna react. I do love my wife but Im not in love with her totally.We never have go along with each other. I dont even know why we got married in the first place. She deep down feels the same way but dont have the balls to say anything about it. We dont even sleep in the same bed since my son was born. I have my own bedroom, its like we are roomates with a kid. its wierd. I really dont know what Im going to do but if I find myself alone with my sister in law its going to be interesting
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reader, TimmD +, writes (1 November 2010):
 I know the kind people on this site have already tried to talk you out of cheating on your wife both in this post and I'm sure in the last as well. It sounds like you are just looking for "permission" to do it. Unfortunately, you're not going to get it here.
The truth is, the feelings you are having for your SIL are wrong. Plain and simple. "I love my wife but I'm not IN love with her" is just an excuse. Your SIL "is no angel" is also just an excuse. All you are doing is looking for justification. There is none. You either say "Screw it, I want to cheat on my wife because I want to" and therefor break the promise that you made to her and your family, or just make up your mind that you are going to be loyal to her and stick by that.
Don't continue this game. If you don't love your wife or want to be married to her anymore... end it. Don't use your unhappiness in your marriage to justify cheating. Last time I checked a marriage takes two. Perhaps you're not getting everything you want OUT of your marriage because you're not putting anything IN to your marriage.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 November 2010):
 I wonder what the wives would say knowing you two goofballs were talking trading them like trading power tools???? Speaking of tools....
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 November 2010):
 If your emotions and feelings are so uncontrollable ("What if i cant stop it?"), then it sounds to me like you might need a doctor's visit and perhaps some medication? People who cannot control their sexual urges to the extent that it could wreck families probably aren't best suited to be the custodial parent.
I vote for counseling. You sound a bit OCD and perhaps are subconsciously looking for the best possible way to injure your wife to the core. Time for professional intervention.
In the meantime, try to lay off alcohol and avoid doing things that lead to poor choices for your health and well-being. If you can't step back from this and realize you're about to blow up two families for the sake of your penis, you need a major reality check.
Take care, remember your children expect you to be the grown uop.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 it will ruin your life! go and get an anwer from a prof. Take your wife with you.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 No stop yourself right there, dont cheat on your wife just dont do it, especially not with a member of the family you will hurt a lot of people. Please dont do it dont be a cheat its not fair on your wife or your son do you want him growing up knowing that his daddy cheated on his mum and left her heart broken? This is pure sexual feelings you have for your sister in law nothing else so just dont take it any further, the feelings will die down in time if you concentrate on yourself and your family. Why not put the effort back in to your marriage and keep yourself busy get a babysitter for a night and take your wife out wine and dine her and then head home and have a romantic night together she is probably craving your love and attention get back in to her bed and work on your sex life with your wife.
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