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writes:Thinking about my ex.I've reflected on mine and my girlfriends break up several months ago, and that's caused me to think about her and her new boyfriend. She started dating him about 2 months ago, some 5 months after we broke up, after 2 years and 4 months together. She just got tired of us arguing over stupid things like Banks, Computers, even games. I just can't believe she's with him now. I realize I must accept this, but what he can give her as a partner is only a fraction of what I could do for her.I feel like she's gone for much less than what she could have had. Don't get me wrong, he's a nice guy, but so am I!! I want to look at this whole thing differently, but I can't see past me thinking I'm a better boyfriend for her than he is cos I really believe I am. What can I do? What other ways can I look at this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the words of advice. I've tried so hard to be strong for a long time now, and I guess x-mas isn't helping this. I want to enjoy x-mas and I will, but it's the first one I've had since she left, and it's worse to know that she's gonna be kissing somebody else under the mistletoe that day.
Despite how I feel about it all right now, I will take what you have both said into account. I will try and just accept this gracefully (what choice do I have after all?), safe in the knowledge that I have a good heart. I just want to find somebody to give it to who will appreciate it.
Many thanks, and merry christmas to you both x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Hi sweetie. Sorry you are going through this. But it is so refreshing to see that there are guys out there who truly love girls. My ex and I had broken up and he 'moved on' pretty quickly. Within months he was already hooking up with other girls.
While I am sorry that you are feeling this way it really is a relief to see guys who ponder and think about things for a while. I guess you really did truly love her so I know too that you had alot more to offer. I assume she is young too and I guess that girls that age don't think in the long term and can't appreciate love like that. I can't be sure that this is the case but it certainly was for me at your age.
You have a beautiful heart and you are so loyal to how you feel. I like that. I know you love her but maybe you always will. Maybe just give it time. Who knows, maybe in some time you will feel differently about her and you'll be able to move on. It takes time. But she was definitely lucky to have had you and she may realise it eventually.
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