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anonymous
writes:okay my guy and I have had a relationship before with a child. split up 14 years later we have been back together going on 2 years. we've alwys have had hot chemistry even when we weren't together. problem is it seems like since we've become more serious these past 4 months it seems hes really turned down the heat. No we don't live together yet I my own he with his mom. anyways , when it comes to the deep lovemaking you know what i mean? i've only had that with him like a handful of times in the oast 4 months. he says its not me my sex drive is higher then his. he perferrs cuddling more then sex anymore. and ive not gained weight ive lost quite a bit which he likes. so problem is why for the past 4 months dont seem to want to get intimate as often? cuddling is great and all. but why now after 14 years of hot chemistry now the past 4 months hardly anything? yes there is an age difference im 33 hes 42. some say its his age? or we both work and he does school. but in the past weather we worked he did school he seemed all over me...now not so much. is it because we are finally serious? and if i ask if he loves me he says yes but wont say it when i say it...and when i ask him he says love word gets tossed alot he will ssay it eventually. he doesn't want to use it lightly, he doesn't want to say it aand later maybe someone gets hurt. I don't know i knkow he loves me very much.....i don't know if it's me? or his age or the fact we are serious now. any answers? please
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2013): hi im the questioner. no it's love for me and to a degree he does have to look after her and our son lives there too and the only place he could go is with me. He is commited to me in all aspects except living with me
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (22 June 2013):
 Hi
Its hard to give a specific reason, only he knows the answer to it.
Could be he is tired after a busy week, could be his sex-drive is less than yours, could be he just doesn't want sex with you as much after all these years.
You don't live together this time, even though you have a child, he lives with his mum and he's 42.Does he have to look after her or is it just he has nowhere else to live?
Is he committed to you this time round or is it just convenience for him? He knows you, he knows he can have sex when he wants but without the commitment of living with you,so he's got it made.
Time to talk and consider what you want from him or this relationship - is it just sex for you?
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