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anonymous
writes: My man stopped looking at me, hugging me, stroking me, or wanting to do anything with me . I noticed he turns away when I'm naked. He seem to feel ashamed. I look good , well, good shape for and over my age..I asked him why , he says , he doesn't know...Well I'm losing my patience, and I think he hates me, but he can;t tell, because he hates conflicts...He just started to be like this one day to an other a few years ago..Now, I tried a few things, like asking him to tell if anything changed. We went to marriage c, and no, he says ,thee s nothing wrong.Is he lying to me? Why is he doing this?I don't know , maybe I should try something else,because ,what I tried, didn't work..What else can I try to get the truth?It's very deceiving situation. What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, 48years  +, writes (9 December 2008):
 He may not be cheating. How old is he? Erectile dysfunction can happen at any age. He needs acheck up. If you decide to believe he's cheating, you will treat him differently...you may destroy something by accidently jumping to conclusions. Undetected diabetes, depression, etc can cause ED.
On the other hand, if he's breastfeeding his cell phone, or makes excuses to fight and drive away spending hours away from you, has unexplained purchases, or is spending too much time at his keyboard, you may need to get a detective.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): thats how my ex started behaving an i like you kept asking what was wrong an he also said nothing,i now know it was a lie and he had been cheating and was planning how to dump me,have me fall for his cunning plan of an argument so he could dump me and it worked
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): I am so sorry, this must be very difficult for you to deal with and I don't think any women deserves this kind of treatment. Please do realize you are special and there is nothing wrong with you. He is the one with the problem.
Question is for how long will you allow him to hurt you and to devalue your self esteem like this?
I think you need to talk to him, very calmly and lovingly, explain your feelings and your hurt. If he really cares enough he will be willing to do what ever it takes to make you happy and to resolve this problem.
I do think seeking the help and assistance of a professional therapist is advisable. It will be the best way for both of you to overcome your various issues.
In the event of him not prepared to go, I suggest you go and ask the counselor or therapist you help you to work through this. It might mean that you have to give him an ultimatum regarding the relationship but you need to think about yourself. You deserve the best. What is the point of being in a relationship like this. It takes two to tango and if he is not doing anything from his side to meet your needs or to accommodate your feelings, I am afraid you need to re-evaluate your situation and relationship. Get a professional to help you through this, it will make life so much easier and more bearable for you.
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