A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:So my friend has 3 best friends in order of S, J and L, I'm J but lately my friend who is in a lesbian relationship with L, told me she prefers me over S and L then asks if she's a bad person, I had sex with her once, and I don't know if she liked it, even though she always said I wasn't good but she talked about it for a long time with L. When she got drunk one night she called me. She said I love you, and I want to have your kids.. Then sometimes she'll touch me when we are both drunk. She will get jealous if I talk to other girls.. And tell me to never cheat on her even though we aren't dating. From what I've said, What does this tell you about her? It's really confusing, does she has feelings toward me?
View related questions:
best friend, drunk, I love you, jealous, lesbian Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Garbo +, writes (13 June 2015):
 Given that she is in a relationship but has had sex with you and is flirting with you then that makes her a cheater. I think your best course of action is to stay away from her because she already has someone she is romantically involved in.
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 June 2015):
 Your friend isn't a lesbian, she is (if anything) bi-sexual if she sleep with both girls and guys. NOT that a label changes anything.
I think she has NO clue what she wants, so she string you along JUST in case she decides that dating a guy is what she wants to do.
If YOU are interested in HER TALK to he while SOBER. IF she doesn't WANT to date you, then FEEL free to date ANY girl you WANT to date, she can't DICTATE if you can date someone else if SHE doesn't want to BE with you.
HOWEVER, IF she is CURRENTLY in a relationship with someone else (their gender is irrelevant) then RESPECT that relationship and DATE someone else.
Seems to me that she ONLY becomes "loving" towards you when drunk, so that is not a super great sign. It's most likely because she becomes more desperate for attention and affection while drunk.
Honestly, though... I'd stay away from this. She is a FRIEND. Friends and SEX shouldn't be mixing. It confuses everyone and ruins good friendships. DATE someone OUTSIDE your circle of "friends" if she doesn't like it... TOUGH, she already has a partner, so it's NOT up to HER whom you date or not.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2015): I don't think she knows what she wants.
It may be totally different in 6 months. Or 6 days.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2015): yes its very confusing but from what i can see you are a male who has a friendship with a girl who has a lesbian partner, but you have previously slept with the girl presumably before she got romantically involved with a female friend.However despite being dismissive of the quality of the sex you had she continues to give you mixed message.No wonder your confused!!I would look elsewhere for a girlfriend. She may be priming you to be sperm daddy , but that could end up an expensive business for you because you would pay maintenance for 18years but probably maintain a relationship with her current girlfriend and although you may get a beautiful child, wonderfully cared for by two moms,your future partner aka the one, might wonder why you got caught in a love triangle when she was waiting for you just around the corner of life.
...............................
|
