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writes:I'm going to make this as simple as possible.I used to like a girl who I was very fond of. But it was not recipricol, she was not interested. So I let her go and moved on... to my surprise she wanted to remain friends so we became friends, I put the attraction behind me as I believe it may cause complication between our friendship if I brought it back to light.Now when we became friends she barley talks to me I always make an effort to talk to her and invite her to parties as she asked me to. But she never comes out with me. She seems like a busy person she works very hard and barely gets time to her self so I just lay cool and let her be. A majority of the time she'll email me back after a while and we will talk then.what should I do? Forget about her? It seems as though I'm chasing her and it makes me feel stupid because I though we are just friends how confusing! Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Teacake  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 I would move on and do not contact her or respond to her emails. Don't waste your time to explain anything because it doesn't sound like she would be respectful of your feelings. If you cut her off without a word then you regain your power and dignity. Otherwise you would be barking up the wrong tree (a saying here in the US)
You don't have to be rude. You don't have to say one word. Just let her think you moved on and have better things than to waste time being a friend, since she is not being a friend to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2008): HiI'm afraid that it sounds as if she's not really interested. Perhaps she feels that by being a friend that she's leading you on and then feels bad about it. Please don't blame yourself - girls behave like this a lot, blowing hot and cold. I'd stop contacting her for a while and make her do any running in future. Good luck.
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