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writes: My ex has a new girlfriend and told me he wanted to remain friends, so i agreed. Anyway, i was starting to move on and a few months later he starts sending me texts, i think he may have been drunk as it was late a night, saying how he misses us having sex and other things like that. I text him the next day asking what that text was about but he didn't reply.A few days after that i was on MSN and he came online and started talking to me, flirting and asking what i used to enjoy most in bed. I went offline. So now i'm totally confused as he is with somebody else and told me he wanted to stay friends. What do you think i should do? Cut contact? Also, why is he acting this way? Attention?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): Well no, it may not be cheating. But it is still inappropriate for him to ask those kinds of questions while he is in a relationship. And it is disrespectful to you that he only wants to talk about sex with you. The fact that he would say "It isn't cheating" says that he knows it is not right anyway. But I don't think he really cares about that, he is only interested in pleasing himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso when i asked why he was bringing up what we used to do in bed, he said he was just making conversation and it "wasn't cheating".
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think you are right about being nasty and insecure. He text me last night saying "hey you, i'm in town this weekend" i haven't replied. Don't know why he has a girlfriend if he wants to sleep around.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (22 August 2010):
 I wouldn't be flattered by his attention. I think you should feel grateful that you are not dating him anymore. He is a sleaze. You have to think about how you would feel if you were his girlfriend and he was off texting other girl's asking about sexual matters. When he said about staying friend's what he really wanted was to keep you hanging around as a reserve girl in case no-one else comes along who catches his eye. He sounds like a nasty, insecure person and you would be wise to avoid him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): Well, at least he is being upfront about what he wants! I think he is basically staying in touch with you because he would like to have sex, if you were willing. That is all he wants. And yes, I do agree that you should cut contact. He is just after sex from you, and he is also being dishonest in his new relationship. Definitely someone to stay away from in my opinion! Don't let him hold you back, you was starting to move on, don't let him drag you back. He is just using his new girlfriend and trying to use you. Walk on forward in your life and leave him behind.
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