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writes:i recently joined dating website and tlked to lovely man and we exchanged phone numbers and have bee txting last few days. we have prty much covered everything bout each other our likes dislikes family everything and now am afraid if we do meet up we wil have nothing to tak about. What are the best conversations to have on a first date. this might sound like starnge thing to ask . I was in arelationship for seven years and have 2 kids and am just very inexperienced in dating. Reply to this Question
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reader, Manya  +, writes (28 August 2009):
Cheer up and be positive!! I have a few suggestions. First, fill up on the news, weather, etc. Don't be political.... or discuss money... but try to talk about some
interesting topic, maybe a movie you've recently seen or a hurricane. or Ted Kennedy recently died (very sad), and what does he think about the Kennedy dynasty?
Or even a joke sometimes works...
Second, what Samantha said, about doing something together. I know a couple who met in a museum, and have been happily married with children for a long while now! Thirdly, GET HIM TO TALK ABOUT HIMSELF!!
If you have talked about "everything" already, how about bowling?
Please, good luck, just be yourself, look good and have a sense of humor!
Love,
Manya
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): I find it helps if you do something together, or visit someplace. It will give you something to talk about. Instead of just going for a drink and a chat, try arranging to do something. If you run into an awkward silence, you can chat about what is going on around you.
It can be uncomfortable at first, but once you get used to each other's company you will feel more relaxed and at ease. Good luck. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2009): I know what not to talk about on a first date: work, kids, your bad habits, violent news about crimes commited. Chit-chat about this and that would be good. Just remember guys ussualy aren't big talkers. No long stories about someone that he doesn't even know.
i have a sinle friend who 's ben dating for more than 10 years, and that's what he told me bothered him about women. he couldn't listen to endless stories about their fammilies and work.
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