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writes:Hi. I'm looking for support from someone out there :( tonight I felt so down and sadly I took it out on my boyfriend while he is working away (over the phone). I told him I wish he understood how I felt having pcos, but his reply was - 'you can walk and breathe can't you? You're in perfectly good health, people would die to be in your position.' I said yes, but... I didn't know what else to say. I understand that statement, but I feel that was so insensitive. I just want support. What do I say and where do I go from here :( Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 October 2015):
 I agree, very few men would truly understand such an issue or the pain you go through having pcos. Only thing you can really do is talk to your doctor about your options. There are ways to lower the harder aspects of pcos.
A friend of mine had severe pcos and she started working out seriously and it did curb the weight gain and lower the pain.
Some suggest certain types birth-control etc.
Even some women who have never gone through pcos doesn't get it, so a man not getting it... is not surprising. Talk to people you know "get it" for support on this issue, your BF is rather useless in that department.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2015): ok i shall really cheer you up by telling you that i dont know what pcos are!But i do know what its like to be sad and lonely.Sometimes in life their is literally no one there when we need them and we have ti learn to deal with this.If it is a medical emergency you must call for an ambukance.If it is not an emergency but a wearying ,exhausting ,kind of crying thing then you might as well let the tears roll as they release magnesium and apparently thats good for the body or for the eye at least.Sometimes a good sleep can help.So sorry that i dont really know much of these pcos but when you feel alone often the spirit is with you to protect you.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (8 October 2015):
 Most guys don't do womens stuff. They don't get it because they DONT GET IT. Sing it to a sister next time.. we all hear ya. even us strangers here on DC. Womans problems….just confirms for me that God aint a woman. Try smile even when you don't want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2015): I change my opinion on this all the time. I have a couple of issues I get depressed about but when I feel like that I try and remember all the bad things other people have, so many people are worse off than me in this world.But then my boyfriend can be insensitive a lot. If I were in some horrific accident and lost my arm he would say 'well at least you have your other arm!'. Yeah guys can kind of suck as a shoulder to cry on sometimes.As Honeygirl says, talking to a man about issues that they have no idea about is useless. Pcos can be miserable to deal with but men wouldn't ever have to deal with such things. If he's working away at the moment maybe then wasn't the best time to talk about it as he may be stressed or just wanted a chat with you.Talk to people who would know what you're going through. Unfortunately men can be insensitive creatures.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (8 October 2015):
 Hon, trying to tell a man about a woman's gynae issues, well.. they just have no idea at all. They don't have to worry about any of the "woman" stuff so they see it as insignificant.
I do see where he comes from, and he feels that you should be grateful for what blessings you have, but yes, I know sometimes us ladies need a shoulder to cry on. Next time rather talk to your best friend or you mom or sister.
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