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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:ok, i want to get engaged with my girlfriend but not to marry yet, (would get married later on in the future).but not sure what i have to say loli have a idea but not sure"(girlfriends name), will you marry me?"or will it be "get engaged to me"serious comments please as im not to sure about what to say..thanks
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reader, no_issues  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 I'm sorry, but there are a few things in life where you must wait until you're ready, and marriage is one of them.
You will know when you're ready because you will know what to say without having to ask anyone else, or watching a hokey chick flick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2008): Bring it up in conversation during a quiet, comfortable time between you rather than making a grand gesture. Just explain to her about how you feel about her, that you'd like to make a gesture to show her that you are committed to her and that although you don't want to start rushing down the aisle and planning weddings for a good while yet, you would very much like it if she would consent to getting engaged, as a symbol of your togetherness and commitment to each other.
Whoops! I've just scrolled back and seen how old you are! So in light of that my previous advice still stands (if that is definately the way you want to go), but I'd also like to offer you an alternative that shows commitment but stops short of engagement/marriage proposals. Buy her a commitment/friendship ring! Something simple, but pretty but not as full on (or as expensive!) as an engagement ring. You could explain to her how much you care, say that the ring is a sign from you that you are comitted to her and to making the relationship work, and that one day, when you are both a little older and have steady jobs and a settled place to live so you can have all the practical things you need to start building a life together, you'd like to think that maybe you could exchange that beautiful little symbol of your commitment to each other for an engagement ring.
I hope that this advice helps and you think about my alternative suggestion :o)
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