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writes:So the first day of class this semester, i got my eye on this one really cute guy. I guess he noticed, because that weekend he started texting me. He got my number from one of his friends that i was good friends with. We texted that whole weekend, and finally when monday came, we started talking in class and stuff. That weekend after the football game, he drove me home. We shared a quick makeout and he was off. Little did i know, he had a girlfriend at the time (who was a good friend of mine from school). We were texting a while and hung out after school and i went over the his house a few weekends. On the third weekend, we really rushed into things, and had sex. I had absolutely noo i dea he was a virgin, or i would have waited longer--but he really wanted to. SO we did. I liked him alot!!!! It went on like this for a few weeks. We hung out, and had sex pretty much allll the time. On his birthday, he told me he loved me. I got kinda scared--ive never told a guy i loved him. So i talked to him about it. He told me he has never felt this was about someone. I guess i believed him. SO i told him i loved him too.. He had a rep at our school of kinda being a huge flirt. I didnt really think it was a big deal, though his friends told me he hits on girls all the time. There was this one guy from my math class that has reallly liked me since the summer. He had been texting me while iwas in this relationship.. I finally told him id hang out with him after school one day just so he'd stop asking me. I didnt think it was a big deal--since my bf flirts with girls all the time apparently. As soon as we got in his car--he kissed me!!! I got really upset and asked him to take me home. He knew i was in a relatioship! I didnt tell my bf till a week later. He got Sooo upset and told me he hated me! He didnt talk to me for a week till i saw him at a party that weekend. He texted me after the party and asked why i didnt talk to him. For that whole week he was texting my best friend!!!!!! Him and her are together now! idont know what to dooo. i lost him, and my best friend.. I still like him a lot -- i just wish he wasnt with her! He claims he loves her too. How can he love her? I just dont understand! SHe was the one who started to like him. During mine and his relationship they hated each other. THe day we were done, she started texting him ,and liking him. SO now theyre official. HOw can this be?? What do I have to do so he realizes that she is not meant for him? I wonder if he's doing this to get back at me??I just dont get it!
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (30 December 2008):
l agree with kakatonik-a guy who cheats on his girlfriend with you will do the same to you
let him go
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reader, katatonik +, writes (30 December 2008):
 First off, any attempts by you to make him "realize this girl is not meant for him" are only going to come across--to him, her, and everyone who knows any of you--as low, mean-spirited, and jealous. Tough, but that's how it is.
Second, even if you successfully ruin their relationship, it doesn't necessarily mean he'll come rushing back into your arms. After all, he thinks you willfully cheated on him.
Third, you say this guy already had a girlfriend when he first hooked up with you. Any guy who would cheat on another girl for you will cheat on you for someone else, period. And any guy who dumps you to turn around and date your best friend out of apparent spite is not worth the effort. Trust me. Try to move on, if you can, to a more loyal best friend and a guy you deserve. Good luck =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): Heyy I totally understand wat your talkin about. Here's my advice...talk to him in person and just tell him how you feel. He doesn't love your bestfriend..trust me..he couldn't get over u and gain love with another girl in that amount of time..babygirl just sit down and talk to him face to face and tell him how you feel and if you start to cry..its ok..he will understand more..goodluck
Xoxo
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