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writes:I honestly was wondering,how do i stop being so blind to the world and start enjoying it? I will be honest, I have tired once now to tell her how i felt during a situation, she just didn't respond, she just gave a blank look and walked away. We dated for 20 months, we were overall happy with each other, problems we had were basically she wanted me to be a strong person, to stand up for what I believe in and such and also that at times she didn't feel like she was the center of my world, when really she was. She loves attention, I don't mind giving it to a girl, but my life crashed and burned so she left me. We kept on changing our personalities for each other, yet who we are as a person were perfect for each other. She tired to change for me, and she tired to make me change for her. She always said to me "Do you think we are to young for each other? I feel like if we were both 25 and single we would be perfect, since we wouldn't live with our parents and could make our own decisions". Then after we broke up she said "You are the type of guy I want to be with when I get married and have children". The day I saw her with her new boy friend I flipped out and couldn't stand looking at them, she saw this and well we talked. She told me she thought I was a great guy and that she does not ever want to lose contact with me and that she would want me to be apart of her life for the next few years. Also the thing is, she has been saying sorry for things she did back in our relationship, be it the arguments we had over one thing or be it the act of her leaving me in my time of need (she has apologized multipliable times for this). This is over a year and a half period of time. For this girl, I know she loves the chase, and well for me I guess I am just to settled as a person and to focussed on finishing up my degree for her.I try not to think about it to much, but really, it was just when she brings up our past like apologizing for what she did (despite her telling me to stop dewling about the past). I guess really, what runs through my head, is what do I do with her? I care deeply about this girl.
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reader, Sttudyo  +, writes (30 December 2010):
It's tough to let go of a person you care about so much. I know it's a cliché and the usual crap people tell but it's true: time kinda patches things up.
Just chill for a bit and slowly try to let go.
I've noticed your age and you're young, as me. You've got plenty of life ahead of you so keep in mind you'll come to meet new people and build new relationships. Live new experiences!!!
Best of luck!!
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reader, Happymansadie  +, writes (30 December 2010):
I an sorry bud girls do this some times but be glad it happened now and not 5 years later getting over a girl is one of the hardest things to do but time passes you will get over her and the best way to get over a girl is to not talk to them for a while get a hobbie and find another girl that you can love you can love anyone or anything you can share what you had with another girl i know from my own life but pay on attention to what she says and when she apologizes for past stuff act like it doesnt bother you be like dont worry it was the past i am over it i know you wont be but that will suprise her she will be wondering why your not wanting her anymore hang out with other girls and talk to your friends about it a good friend is a great way to get out all the sadness when she sees you with other girls and if you all are laughing and having fun jealousy will set in for her she might not show it but its there i hope i helped if so message back if it did or didnt
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