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writes:where do i begin exactly!lol im 16 turning 17 and i have a rather amazing boyfriend who's 18 of whom i very much love with all of my heart :)we are verry close but however live a good few hours away from each other but have a stable and consistant relationship as i see him every other weekend.I am young i know but ive had a few reationships some good most bad and end in heartache to be expected especially at my age.Im hoping this wont be the same someting clicks with me and my boyfriend and i can say over the few months of going out i feel exactly the same as we first met ,head over heels :)This is my problem,With everything going smoothly (as can be) so far there is someting causing me sleepless nights.My Boyfriend will probably be joining a military service to be exact the marines somtime next year.until then im making most of every moment we have together:) But I want to say that everything will be okay and we'll run off into the sunset and be happy but realistically chances look slim.Im a first year in college and he's 18 and will probs be in the marines for at least 4 years.4 years doesnt sound like alot to wait for someone i love and i do love him ! But this is what worries me in those four years i would of finished college and be half way through my degree in four years i'll be almost 20 and he'll be 22 and would we both of changed..thats what happens....I dont know how often id get to see my boyfriend either i want to stay with him soo bad but i just dont know if it can work.surely there must be a way and this isnt doomed! everynight i ask god for a sign and all i wake up to is a good morning text from my bf :)As a girlfriend all i want to do is love and support my man of course i dont want him to go but its his dreams and i dont want to get in the way of them!i dont want to hold him back ,his decision to join wasmade way before i came into the picture so i respect his wishes...all im wondering is is it better for us to break up before things get really itense or to save us aparently completly destroying our beautiful relationship i really really dont want us to split i intend to stay with him through the good and the bad also i dont want to ever look back on him and think what if!what should i do do i stay with my man who i love very much and get destroyed by thoughts of missing him.Or do i break both our hearts in hope that somehow if never ill PERHAPS move on ...Can this work at our age ?thans in advance xx
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reader, Equil +, writes (30 December 2008):
To be honest with you, I'll be frank here,The Royal Marines are extremly tough to get into, we're talking 90% drop out rate and a further 30-40% of that is from injury alone. So if your going to break up with him before and he ends up dropping out or deciding its not for him, it is going to be bad for both of you.I think you should stay with him and support him while he's in training, he will definetly need all of the motivation he can get. Because they really drag you through the mud at Lympstone.If he gets through it, go down and watch him pass out, it'll be the proudest day of his life and something you'd want to be apart of.Now comes the tricky bit, him being away and the age he's at. The lifestyle that the bootnecks bring is extremly tough. They work hard and when they get any chance, they'll party hard too.But my advice would be to stay with him through training and see where the road takes you.
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reader, ser2187  +, writes (30 December 2008):
Your boy friend is not in the marines yet. You already have a long distance realtionship thats good. If it were me
I would take it one day at a time. He will need your support while he is in basic and when he gets deployed, but remeber that he should also support your needs to.If this was meant to last it will.But dont be suprised if you go apart and find other people. The best thing to do is be honest with yourself and him. Follow your heart you are the only one who will be able to really to decide this.
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reader, Qwerty1432 +, writes (30 December 2008):
I am in a simalar situation as you are, my girlfriend, is going to be joining the army soon, and i have asked for advice on teh subject, and after alot of advice and thinking, i decided it is for the best if we try and be apart, at our age we cant be waiting for someone for four years, and yeah you will both have changed, you will grow apart in this time away, and not depend on each other anymore, and when this happens, you may decide you dont want to wait 4 years. As happy as you are in this relationsip, my advice would be to try and move on.
Hope this helps.
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