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writes:This lady is a classmate of mine and i have known her for almost a month and a half. We came to know each other through a competition where we both were in the same team. From that day, apart from meeting everyday in college during college hours, we exchange lots of msgs and sometimes phone calls. A couple of days ago she told me that she's always impressed with me with or without any reason. Infact i also like her very much and even i am impressed by her with or without any reason. I conveyed this feeling of mine to her, on the same day. Last night I asked her out, not for a date, but just like that, she said that, she'll inform me when she'll be free . She also told, "Don't feel bad plzzzz, but i'll try my best.".I had a bad relationship 6 months ago. Im getting quite hopeful of this lady. My questions are-1 What am i supposed to understand when she said, "Im always impressed with you."2 What am i supposed to understand when she said, "Plzzz dont feel bad, i'll try my best" Reply to this Question
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reader, BorninUssr  +, writes (17 May 2010):
 Hi my friend :)
i see you have good time.
Well, if she want to make a FRIEND of you, just to talk about her problems, she found a guy who is awesome listening and SO understanding. If it is what you want to be? a friend, then apply:) if NOT - RUN away, or make her understand that you are not going to be a friend, you want to be ( and tell her who you want to be)
Just don't get week, when she will say - that you are going to destroy everything or something silly like that.
BE a man, you know what you are going for. If she doesn't want the same, well then you can meet her sometimes eat ice-cream of whatever. Just go for your Goal ;)
If she doesn't accept it, don't mind it. ;)
The most important rule for you should be:
You have to do what is best for you.
And how my favorite author use to say: Life is like cooking; before choosing what you love, try everything. :)
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reader, u_dutta2001 +, writes (8 May 2010):
u_dutta2001 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionanother situation developed...
last nite, she told me that she found meas one of her best frends in her lifetime that she have came accross. she told that though she doesnt share her thoughts and secrets to very little no of persons, she feels comfortable sharing with me as im very undertstanding.
after that, i told her that, she is the ONLY positive thing in my life right now, which is very very true. after hearing this she was surprised and amzed and told that it was unbelievable. she also told that, it was a hugee thing and maybe i shudnt have expressd this to her. she also told that after hearing this, she was feeling something, of which she was not sure what it was.
im confused, once again. pleaseee help me out...
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reader, u_dutta2001 +, writes (7 May 2010):
u_dutta2001 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi,
couple of days ago, i went out with her. she told she had a great time. yesterday, she askd me out for a 'just-like-that' ice cream shop socialising. my ques-- where am i heading into?
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reader, BorninUssr +, writes (4 May 2010):
hey my friend :)well it means - you go out, who cares how you call it, "just like that" or a "date". The meter is how you feel like, you can easy come from one to another in just some minutes.So, just go ;) And first you do, make it comfortable for you and for her. No meter where you are, in restaurant or in a cheep cafe next to bus station. You are the one who maker the "weather" so make it sunshine ;) p.s. my "like that " was some kind of disaster :)I don't really enjoy spy-games. Because she has an BF,so i had to make it neutral. I think i was grate, i mean, i did what i did. Hope we still save our contact, but she is confused now, and i think a little bit worried. What i want to say, just do it. You win or loose just by taking action, if you don't take action, you stay on the same place, but you have to move in everything in your life ;)just listen to Thousand Foot Krutch - Move
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reader, u_dutta2001 +, writes (4 May 2010):
u_dutta2001 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, just now she have accepted my invition to go out. she was the one to tell me first. i didnt took the topic at all. not a date, 'just like that'. socialising in a restaurant. now, wat does this mean???
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 To my thinking: if she's interested in you in the way you want her to be, I think it'll be readily apparent. Right now, all you're working on is hopeful interpretation, so you're not "risking" her. What can you lose if you don't have it, already? I think you're risking your dignity, if nothing else. If she 's genuinely interested and she's playing coy games with you, then ask yourself if you're really ok with that type of thing. If she accepts the social invitation then let her make the next move. There is no special coded message in everything she does or says. If she's really into you, I think you'll read it loud and clear and not have to look for covert signals. Good luck.
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reader, u_dutta2001 +, writes (3 May 2010):
u_dutta2001 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks BunnyTee.i asked her out not for any academic purposes. just a social meeting over coffee maybe. thats my real fear here, that im working on implications only and ignoring the reality completely. im fearing of crossing the fine line but, wat if she is really interested in me? then how to understand the signs? im really confused and dont wanna annoy her at any cost. i dont wanna take any chance of losing her. thanks BorninUssr.ya buddy, i bet u know wat i felt wid her spcl looks. just plain and simple WOWWW. and all the best for ur 'just like that' meeting tomorrow mate :) :)
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reader, BorninUssr +, writes (3 May 2010):
well my friend
I read it, and i can just imagine, whats going on in your head =)
You asked her once, ask her one more time ;)
not a date, just an ice, or a cafe.
And please if you talk to her, just don't make it official, make her feel grate,special and good in your near. Just talk, don't concentrate just on what she say, look how she say it. :)
But please, let her decide when to meet you. She need time, she said it.
And don't come too late ;)
When your eyes met, i know that feeling, thats an awesome feeling ;)
p.s. it was my 1 answer ;)
p.s.s. I have a similar meeting tomorrow :) non official, "just like that" :D
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (3 May 2010):
"I'm impressed with you" could actually mean only she's impressed with you as a colleague or professional peer, or fellow student. It could be that she thinks you're smart, funny, or whatever , or that she just admires your own sense of style. I wouldn't read into it beyond that. Being impressed with someone doesn't translate into "I might fall madly in love with you" Don't forget that words mean things. This sounds as though you're too close to crossing that line of misread signals. So you did or did not ask her out? If you invited her to meet up to study or discuss something that doesn't qualify as ask out. So perhaps her schedule is pretty tight and she didn't want to come across as kicking you to the curb? It sounds like you're operating on implications rather than true reality here. Be very careful. Don't read into it what's not actually there or she could go from being impressed to rapidly annoyed.
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reader, u_dutta2001 +, writes (3 May 2010):
u_dutta2001 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand another thing, i havent been out wid her, for now...
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reader, u_dutta2001 +, writes (3 May 2010):
u_dutta2001 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u anonymous. actually the situation is as follows- unfortunately she told me that thru msg, and me too said her thru msg!!! so, thats difficult to judge. in my question i forgot to include one thing-- prior to our contact she used to stare at me whenever we were in visual range. i know that for sure, coz our eyes have met for so so so many times.
today another development happened. while taking the viva exam today i turned around to just have a glimpse of her, our eyes met today. but today her eyes told a very different story. its a complete new look, never before look. its shy and its full of that x-factor, that i cant explain, but it sure did skipped my heart beat for a moment and i had an adrenaline rush. it was very diff, im emphasising. i felt real good.
PS: 1. she dont have a BF.
2. im still confused as to whether again ask her out or wait for her response first....
thanks...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2010): hii didn't understood, have you been you out with her ( not a date) but just like that, or not?When she said that : "Im always impressed with you." what does she looks like, saying it? i ask because you can see it on her face, when she pronounce it, and you will understand when you see it, or remember, when you saw.Her face and arms tell you more than just " i'm imressed" :)to be honest, if you are a good guy, i mean, you are a good person, you will attract other persons, just by contact. And even if that girl has a bf, she will keep in touch with you, just because you attractive, may be funny, may be smart.... -and this make your impression on her.Well im not a prophet, but you have a chance on that lady, and when she will be free, you will know it ;)p.s. ..., I'll try my best" translate as - be patient ;)
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