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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok this has confused me abit. Well before i start i'd like you to know that this bullying is mroe or less over but i'm still wondering about this.Basically afew members of the group suddenly took a disliking to me, never found out why or anything. Anyway before this we all got on gr8 and there was a lad i really though liked me becasue he used to show it loads and stuff.(now whether he does or not is irrelavent to this situation, im not asking if he does or not)Anyway there was a lad in our class that always followed the others and i said something, probably as a joke or i may have picked on the lad i like whilst playing a game and this other lad(and hes said this before) he just goes "smack her"to the lad i liked. (anyway as i say its almost all sorted now.But what i want to know is whilst all this picking on me was going on this lad i liked never started any of it he only laughed a long with the others and did stick up for me once. But when this lad said smack her to him he sorta paused and said "why don't you"Now how was that ment?wasd it ment in the way you'd say it if someone was telling you to hit someone or do somehting to them and you didn't wnat to(maybe you thought they didnt deserve it and the other one was just being nasty) so you it was if he was trying to say no, i dont want to if you want someone to do it do it your self, because its the other person that thinks it. So Kinda in the nice way. ir culd it be ment in a nasty way? I'm not sure how to explain the nasty way but as if he just wouldn't do it anyway but was still being nasty like the rest?How was it ment? What do you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, supermum +, writes (29 August 2008):
 we dont know these people so we cant really answer... i guess whether or not the guy is still showing that he likes you is rellavent becuase if he is showing you that he likes you, he was probably saying it in a good way.. if he doesnt.... well then its hard to say...x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): I can't understand your question because of the way you wrote it. It's very confusing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): Clearly he did not feel comfortable or actually want to do it. Being physically violent towards a girl is wrong and lads that grow up with this rather nasty habit end up thinking its ok to beat their girlfriends or wife. So... i'm glad to hear the bullying is pretty much over but if I were you I would try and avoid any involvement with this kind of person or group - concentrate on yourself, your hobbies and interests and lads like this will become boring in time. If things start getting bad again please let someone know and on no account or for any reason should you get hit by anyone - in school or out of school. Take care.
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (29 August 2008):
 He may have been asking for a relevant reason as to why he should as in 'if you can't think of a reason to hit her then why should I hit her?'. I think you should ask him. It really depends on how he said it, and only you can judge that.
I can't say anything really other than talk to him and ask him how he wanted his words to be taken.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (29 August 2008):
 I think he meant that he didnt want to (obviously, thats awful!) But he couldnt say much in front of his mates and he probaly didnt havemuch time to think of a comeback. Guys minds work slow.
Glad to hear the bullying is all sorted xx
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