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writes:I was 9 years old, and I went camping with my parents. We went to a lake we had never been to before, and by the time we got there and got set up it was almost midnight. There was a camper beside us, and a guy came out and introduced himself, his wife, and his 3 children. The oldest boy was 15, the middle boy was 13 and the youngest and only girl was 9, too.Since that year our friendships have grown and grown. They have come to our house and we have gone to their's for special occasions, or random visits. And most of all, have gone back to the very lake we first met, ever year since I was 9. I am 14, and it has been 5 years that we've known each other. The middle guy and I have been flirting off and on lots, especially this year, since we were the only teenagers at the lake this year. He took me for 2 boat rides, and we would always team up for tubing together. I really like this guy, and I want something to happen between us but his ex-girlfriend who said she wanted to take a break had slept with a guy 3 days later, is coming in the way because he still has feelings for her. What can I do to make us grow closer, and maybe even start a relationship together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionRight now he's actually 17 because he has a late birthday, but I get your point. Thanks guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): Just at the moment he might be thinking he's too old for you at 18, and looks upon you as more of a playmate than anything else. It could also take some time for him to get over his ex, so now is probably not the best time to try to start a relationship.
If anything is going to emerge from your friendship it will probably happen as a natural course of events. As you get older he'll look at you with a different pair of eyes as you progress from being a little girl and turn into a young woman, and it could well be him that chases after you!
In the meantime, it might speed the process up a bit if you were to either tell his sister how you feel in the hope she won't be able to keep it to herself or directly ask her to let her brother know what's on your mind. If a guy knows there's going to be green lights all the way ahead he might be tempted to step on the gas a bit!
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