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anonymous
writes: Hi ALLI posted a question earlier today - and i'm not sure if i asked in the correct way. But i would really appreciate more answers.The question was posted as:I fell out of love with my bf - what can I do to restore the passion?Please please please - anyone. Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, Lordtone +, writes (19 November 2007):
Firstly, if you need to find something about him to be attracted to but can't, you are probably in the wrong relationship. Having said that there are different types of attraction. Is it physical attaction that you are looking for or do you want to be attracted to him as a person, his character? If it is physical attraction (the easiest one) then really you either are attracted to him or you are not. Both will work in a loving relationship as long as the relationship does not rely predominantly on looks. If it is his character you love then normally (subconsciously) you may tend to overlook any downfalls in physical attraction. It is quite possible for couples to fall 'out' of love just as easily as they fall 'in' love. If the relationship is not working now, ask yourself do I really need it to work or is it time to move on.
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