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writes:My parents annoy and confuse me.I'm 18 and have just started community college, living at home and my parents will not let me be.If I get out of the house, they scold me and if I stay locked in my room, they make excuses for me to come out. What should I do? I'll be moving out after my time in community college is over but for now, I don't know how to handle this. If I force myself out the house to look for a job or have time alone, they make me stay home. My parents don't want me to get a job because they think it will get in the way of school. I need a way to make money in order to move out. I have talked to them this morning about my problem and they refuse to listen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2014): As a mother of two girls of 6 and 3 and autistic boy of 21, the girls will oneday blossom and grow and wants some independence from their mum and dad lol it's the hardest thing to imagine . It's normal to want space from your folks and sit in your room and daydream and hopefully study too and I hope I will remember that when my girls are that age and not feel left out by my daughters .. Your parents maybe annoying, hey so will you be lol but they love you and world outside poppet is real hard, with bills and bills and work and study and bills if you go it alone .. I sometimes wish I were 18teen again and snugly and secure at home no worries, no responsibility .. Take wise owls advice and speak openly about how you feel. This is not the blame game though .. Ask them what do they expect from you, inside knowledge is good it gives us a foundation to work with .. Explain that you need space, if your in your room it isn't because your not wanting time with them it's because your studying or relaxing . If working very important to you, explain that you feel a part time job would be good for your cv, in long term hopes of securing a job .. I agree that a job shouldn't come before your study, so look reasonable at how much time you have to work .. Working is good for the soul and I applauded you on that .. Most teenagers would just be happy to stay at home and not fend at least some for themselves .But choose a job for the right reason .. Not just to jump from the frying pan into the fire .. Your parents love you and ofcourse they annoy you, my kids can annoy me at times lol but I love them more than life .. Choose one of them to talk too, my son always chooses me over dad haha, not because I give in .. Just I tend to listen more and he needs that .. I would hope my children would always see me as open enough to talk about anything no matter what it was .. Take care sweetie and don't be to hasty to fly the nest .. Plenty time for that ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2014): Sit down with your parents and discuss what it is they want from you.
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