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writes:So I was sexually assaulted several times in high school. It's now years and years later, and I'm with my first serious boyfriend. Everything was going great and he is supportive of me and all that's happened. However, I randomly find myself lashing out at him for being a man. He'll mention something about being able to be shirtless or pee standing up and I'll just explode in anger. Yelling then crying then depression. He tries to be understanding but it's hard because I get SO angry! I really can't help it. I'm like blind with rage and hate him so much for a bit even though we're usually madly in love. This never used to happen in all the past years and even in the first 6 months of dating him this didn't happen. I don't know what to do, it's getting worse and it's nothing he's done! Reply to this Question
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reader, GeorginaMC  +, writes (25 December 2009):
It's not your fault. Being sexually assaulted is a serious thing, and can be really traumatising. Since this boy was a boy maybe your feeling that if he done this, every other boy is capable of the same thing, and will do the same thing. Anyone who goes through this, will probably do the same thing. I would be angry also. Try get an appointment with a specialist in this kind of thing, it's better to get it sorted now rather than later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): apologise to your boyfriend if you've been aggressive with him. tell him that sometimes you can't control how you feel and that you're lucky to have him so supportive. in the meantime, you should talk to a psychologist/counsellor who would help you figure out your anger and help you solve the problem. sexual assault is very difficult to go through..the trauma is too harsh and difficult to overcome so keep in mind that you're not alone and that many women go through this as well. good luck.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (25 December 2009):
you need to call a helpline like Rape Crisis and get counseling. Its free. You have unresolved issues and you will ruin this relationship if you ignore them
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reader, Angzw +, writes (25 December 2009):
you need to call a helpline like Rape Crisis and get counseling. Its free. You have unresolved issues and you will ruin this relationship if you ignore them
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