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writes: i have known my girlfriend for a year already. we just started going out a few days ago. it seems all that has to be said, has been said before. i know pretty much a lot about her, (but not that much)i am afraid when we hang out, i.. will have nothing to say or i will talk about useless mortifying things.does anybody have any ideas? a lot has to do with chemistry between us, but i would also like some advice on some of the things that i should mention or bring up. Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (11 March 2006):
 The way that I keep conversations with my husband fresh (after 19 years!) is by discussing ideas.
You can actually learn a great deal about someone by talking about their ideals, their goals, their dreams, their annoyances and their interests. I recommend starting with that. A simple question like "Do you ever think about where you want to be in 20 years?" can start a very intriguing conversation.
Then again, you can read about things that are happening in the world -- events that interest you -- and talk about those things. You don't have to feel like a know-all about "world events". Just start small: "Did you read about that little rat-squirrel that was discovered in Laos, after it was supposed to have been extinct for 11 million years? The carcass was in a meat market!"
You can also ask her opinion on local events going on in your area, things like sports, local politics, well-known people...
Finally, if you've known her for a year already, you don't really have to worry about filling the air with nonstop onversation all the time. Sometimes a "companionable silence" beats pointless yakking. As long as she knows that you're happy to be with her, then you don't have to talk all the time.
Hope this is some help.
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reader, bridget +, writes (11 March 2006):
 hey there mdo808
Here is some advice I Hope comes your way..
How do u mean going out?
You mean you were friends before and now become a couple?
If so, then you should keep in mind that this girl was really into you in the first place to become more than just friends.. So dont worry about impressing her in that department!
You could, although, suggest something that you have not already done.. Like something that just involves you both.
By the way that you state things It sounds as if you have been successfull in getting together with someone you have really liked for ages..
So make a go for it.. and be yourself at all times, thats exactly what I did and a year and 3 months later I certainly dont regret it!!
When I say do something for you both I mean cook her dinner (find out what she likes, It helps!!) but make it special, Candles and the likes, you get the drifty!!
If you are like me though and not very good at the Jamie Oliver operatins, order out or go out aslong as you have the candles and no one else there, it will help it will show that you care and that you have time to show her how much she means to you, and that is more stronger to any girl than trying to start converations..
Trust me im a female!
I hope this works for you!
Jacqueline
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