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writes:Hey dearcupid!!! First things first i want to thank everyone who helped me with my last problem. Time is the best healer and ive found someone awesome, I just need help knowing what we are!!!Ive known her for jist over a year but at the start of the month i invited her to a party. We had a great time and one thing led to another and we ended up having sex! Wole up spent the day together. She told me she feels safe with me and she trusts im a good guy. Three days later her ex finds out and convinces her shes a slut, our relationship almost ends there as she feela used. I met up with her and we had a good long talk, she decided her ex is toxic and cut him out!Now things have been great we hang out alot, go to movies, hold hands....everything your typical couple does except weve held off sex for now (sometimes gets close though!)My question is what are we? How do i bring it up with her? What do I say?!On another note my ex who got back with her asshole ex boyfriend has been recently messaging me saying she really misses me and wants to have lunch, she always throws in "love you so much!". Shes a great woman if not a little confused and lonely, would it be wise to see what she wants to talk about?Cheers!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2011): It would be unwise to meet up with your ex, especially if she has a new boyfriend. This might not make much sense, but there is a fundamental difference between missing the person and missing what the relationship used to be. I think seeing her would not only complicate things between your ex, but things between this new chick as well. Speaking of this new woman, take things slow. It sounds like she has her own complications with a recently ended relationship. As you know, people need time to heal those mental wounds that are left behind by break-ups. Continue to date her and when she is ready she will let you know by her words or her actions.
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