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writes:when planning to get divorced, what are the things to consider. My husband and I are separated and I would like to know what to expect if our marriage does not survive, especially from those in the RSA. Thanks...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2012): you need to consider what the legal consequences are if you are children, and joint property in both your names. Also you need to consider what your financial situation will look like on your own - how much will the divorce cost? where will you live?
aside from that, you might also want to consider if you are emotionally ready to handle a divorce. Do you need to save up more money first? Do you need to sort out some personal issues first that can get in the way of following through with a divorce (such as not being completely 100% you want it).
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (31 July 2012):
 You need to start building some credit on your own. Open a few credit card accounts solely in your name. Buy a few things and pay them off pronto. The accounts you own together as a couple, begin to pay them off as well. The less you owe jointly the easier it will be when you file for divorce. Mentally start thinking about the things around your house that you want to divide. Make a mental list. He gets the hide-a-bed, you get the couch. He gets the dresser, you get all the art work etc. Start thinking about the things you want to divide up. You may get to keep the house but you will have to buy him out of his half, meaning you refinance in your name but at a higher rate. Otherwise you will have to sell the house and split the profits down the middle. Many couples can file their own paperwork, but if there are kids involved, of several propertes (such as rentals etc) I suggest you get a good atty. In the meantime, you can still work on your marriage if both parties seem hesitant to call it quits. Go for counseling. You may be living apart but you can still schedule some time together, like a weekly date night to see how things are going. It doesn't have to lead to sex but it will help you decide if you could love each other again. Good luck.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 July 2012):
 I do not reside in South Africa therefore I am unsure how your system works but here is a sight that might help answer your questions
www.edivorce.co.za/divorce-process.php
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