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writes: hey.. im in a tough situation right now.. my boyfreind recently broke up with me about 2 weeks ago.. we havnt been talking as much as i wish we would. he told me when he broke up with me that we could still be close.. and hang out. i use to be very close to him and we would talk on the phone for hours every day! i dnt really talk to him anymore and feel like there is something missing. i am close with all of his friends and i talk to them to figure out what is goin on with my ex boyfriend.. it seems to me like my x boyfriend doesnt tell his freinds exactly how he feels.. i think he is keeping his thoughts and feelings inside of him.. i want him to be more open. when me and my ex where together he told me that if i am having any doubts in the relationship to talk to him about it.. because he wants things to last between us and he really wants to be able to communicate and work things out.. his friends told me that he doesnt really want to see me right cus he doesnt want to lead me on.. but then my ex boyfriend tells my friends that he wants to hang out with me this weekend.. it seems like he is cofused on what exactly he wants.. i am 15 and he is 15 also.. when me and my ex were together.. i felt a strong bond between us.. there was a time where i did not see him for 3 weeks.. when i did see him he was at the movies.. and he basically avoided me 80% of the time.. and we all met up there. i dont understand why he could act this way because i didnt do anything wrong. he seems like he doesnt even want to see me anymore.. i want to be able to work things out between us because i miss hanging out with him and his freinds. im not sure what to do.. but right now i feel like i dont want to like anyone else.. and even after he was a jerk to me i still cant seem to get over him. i have talked to his freinds about things and they told me that he will soon realize that he is missing out but it will take him time to realize this. i want to be able to talk to him but i feel like he doesnt want to really talk.. should i give him time to think about things? i sorta mentioned to him how i felt and it seemed like what i said didnt mean anything to him. and i asked him what was on his mind and he changed the subject.. i need advice.. so can you help me?
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (7 March 2006):
 Sounds to me like he wants to stay your ex and that he wants to taper off the contact, he is only bothering with you when he wants and is giving no thougts to how you feel.
Leave him alone and dont let him keep promising you things, he does not really want to stay close friends and wants to just see you as part of a group.
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