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writes: hi i have just gone into year nine at school and me and my boyfriend have been going out with each other since te begining of year 6. we are madly in love i know he is the one for me and we are really open with each other. the thing is i dont know weather i should have sex with him! i think i am ready to and i love him 3 years is a long time for us to be going out i was 11 when he asked me and i am now 14 we are doig well but should i shagg him? HELP SOMEONE PLEASE! u dont know weather to i want to but i dont know wjat people will think of me he says he wont pressure me into it but i want to do it HELP!! advice needed thanx xx Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 If you're not sure, you're not ready. Simple.
Wait until you're Absolutely, Positively, 100% Sure that you want to have sex, and you're confident that it's nothing you'll regret.
Then do one more thing: talk with your boyfriend about what sort of contraception you're going to use. Condoms? Pill? Patch? IUD? A combination of the above? Make sure you buy whatever you choose, and USE whatever you buy.
If you're too embarrassed to talk about contraception and to make sure it's on hand, you're too young to have sex.
Oh, and by the way, in most countries the legal age for sex is not before age 16, so technically, you're not permitted to have sex with each other. Just one more reason to wait. Three years is only a long time because you two started going out when you were still children. There's no "rule" than mandates sexual contact after a certain time.
Wait.
Wait.
When you're ready, have contraception in your hot little hands, then be sure you're not doing it just because you "think you should" but because you want it more than you want anything else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): you are to young. wait untill you are atleast 16. otherwise you will regtet it. it will also hurt more because your body hasnt formed enough yet. wait until your 16 and then go ahead, believe me you wont stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): Well I know what you're feeling. Three years is a long time. I dont think you need to have sex. You dont want to end up pregnant at this age. I know the way things are when you first start having sex and sometimes you could get too caught up in the moment and not care about using protection and get pregnant. So if I were you id leave things the way they are. hope this helps!
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