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writes:You see I got out of a really bad relationship...and me and my ex don't talk anymore, we're practically enemies...I admit I don't have feelings for him anymore but for some reason I miss the sex soooo much! I just miss that feeling he gave me when we would have sex and among many other things. And I began to like this guy and he's my friend and we joke in a weird way. We are very close and I'm very attracted to him...and I can't help but want sex from him...what should I do?
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 It's normal to miss the one good thing you have in a relationship, even if it was bad relationsip. He made you feel good when you had sex, and that is often what keeps us going back to those relationships that are horrible and distructive for us. So... I commend you. You have done a great thing by realizing that going back to the ex, even if it is just for sex, is not wise.
As for the new guy, as long as you feel that this is not a 'rebound' thing and his appeal is for more than just the sex, I say, approach him and see what happens. The worst that can happen is that he will not be interested because the two of you are friends and he doesn't want to risk that by adding a new dimension to your relationship. Remember once you have sex with someone it is often difficult to turn back time and resume where you left off before becoming intimate. So consider that, and make your decision from there, just be sure that it is what you really want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): I think you should tell him that you are attracted to him and that you want to take it to the next level, but if you do tell him you need to be prepared to loose him. He might not feel the same way and end up walking away from the friendship.
So you need to decide whether you love this guy or whether its just lust, then you should make a decision based on that.
Okay good luck
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